How To Manage Your Thoughts, Feelings & Behaviors

What thoughts are you having right now that don't serve you? They don't serve your bigger future. Judge them. Analyze them. They are not you. There's two of us in there. With all the opportunities that exist today, why haven't you reached your next level of income, life, and wealth? In most cases, we've been lied to. We've been told that if you find the right opportunity and you work hard, you can be successful. And that's simply not true. Millionaires, billionaires, and successful people have realized you need the foundation for wealth, the habits. And that's a exactly what you'll be learning on the Millionaire Success Habits podcast. All success starts here. Welcome to the Millionaire Success Habits Podcast. It's an honor and a privilege and a pleasure to have you here. If you're joining me for the first time, welcome, welcome. If you're back week after week, thanks for the support. Thanks for going to subscribetodeen.com subscribe to dean.com our subscriber base is growing like crazy because of you. So if you want gifts, you want bonuses, make sure you do that. But today, I have a message that I'm gonna tell through a story with my daughter. So last weekend, and yes, this has to do with success, has to do with happiness. When I say success, I want you to have a full, rounded definition of success. Money without happiness, money without health, health without money. All of it's a pain in the ass unless you have all of it. So why not work on the core, work on the foundation? Like I always say, all success starts here. Because all success starts with your habits and your values. Before the magic money machines, before the businesses, before the grit, before the grind. You need the habits. So let me tell you this story. One of the greatest things ever taught, I believe, is what Earl Nightingale so simply put in the strangest secret, that we are nothing more than the sum total of our thoughts. Now, we know that. We hear it. You've heard me share it. You've read about it. But how does it actually stick in your life? How does it work in your life? Are you aware that you are nothing more than the total of your thoughts? You will become the person that follows or obeys the thoughts that you have. If you have thoughts of scarcity, of thoughts of getting taken advantage of, get thoughts of being the victim, get thoughts of. Have thoughts of being an entrepreneur who can handle anything, an entrepreneur who could just go to the ends of the earth and do what it takes. I mean, everything is. Everything starts with a thought. But let me just Share this with you? My daughter and my son and I went to Utah last weekend. Fishing. Fishing was one of the things we did. We just wanted to hang out, get out of the heat and still hot here in Arizona. So we wanted to get out. So we jump on a plane and we go to Park City, Utah, having an amazing time. We go fishing. We learn how to fly. I hire some coaches to help my kids to get better. Dear friends actually helping. We did outdoor sports, we went bowling. We did all this great stuff. Long story short, my daughter's 11, and whether you're a parent or not, I'm just telling you, I had no idea that girl drama starts at about 10. It's like the plane lifts off the ground at 10, and girl drama starts. Girls are getting in cliques. Girls are making fun of other girls. And I'm not saying that girls like boys are bad, but boys are kind of wanting off to play sports at this age and Fortnite. Anyway, the drama starts. So my daughter is very like I was. She needs everybody to like her, to feel good about herself. Now I work on that all the time, telling her, you know, she needs her own self worth. But she's 11, and we're working on it. So, long story short, we're coming back on a Sunday, and she wants to come back to go to a yoga class with three of her friends that she's kind of on the edge with. They're kind of cliquey, great girls, amazing girls, but that's just the way it is. It doesn't make any kids better. My daughter's not any better than any of those other girls, but she wanted to really go, and it was important to her. And she said, dad, I really want to go. This yoga class and then lunch after, and I can bond with these girls. It'll just make it so much easier in school because I really like them and. And one of them she felt bad for. Cause she's moving and she really likes her all this stuff. So I cut this trip short. I said, okay, Bri, you want to go back for that? I understand. I was your age once. Let's change the flight. So we changed the flight. Now I'm giving you this backstory, so you have context here. Now, we changed the flight to get there with an hour's cushion. Yeah, I cut things kind of close, but we had an hour, hour and a half cushion. We get to the airport, the flight's delayed for an hour. We didn't fly private. We fly commercial. We just had fun. We went up There, but we were an hour late. So now we're an hour late. And did you ever fly into planes? They're not super small, not super big, but they can't handle the big roll on bags. So you got to leave them in the jetway and then they have to, you basically have to check the bag. So we had to check the bag. And all of a sudden I'm looking at time and we're going to land at about the exact time this yoga class starts. And it was so important to my daughter, I get it. And you might say, ah, it was a dumb yoga class. No, it was more that 11 year old girl trying to do the right thing. It was a big deal to her. So all of a sudden, now why am I telling you this whole story? Because I watched my daughter say, dad, we're not going to make it, dad, we're going to be late. And I watched the stress, and I watched the feeling in her belly when she was telling herself we weren't going to make it. We had not yet gotten there late, we had not yet missed the appointment. But the story, her thoughts were already there. The story she was telling herself is that we were missing. And I watched her mannerisms change, I watched her physiology change, I watched her mood change. She was sad, she was thinking of all these things and I'll miss the class and then Monday at school will be uncomfortable again because I didn't fix it with the one friend. All of those thoughts, one thing, a delay in the flight triggered 15 other thoughts. She wasn't even my regular daughter. She was sitting there sad. So we're going. And I said, here's what I told her. I said, bri, now kids don't want lessons all the time as adults. We want them because we want to go faster. But I said, bri, wouldn't it be better to think that we're going to make it? No matter what, we're going to make it there on time. Because whether we make it there on time, I'd rather have the better thought on the way than being sad. So in my head all I kept saying is, however, we're going to do it, we're going to make it. The flight's going to go a little quicker, we're going to get the bags quicker than we thought. I'll drive quicker, we'll get there. And I was fine. And I do this all the time, but I've had 50 years of being on this earth to figure it out. She's 11. So long story short, we get there on time. We got there 10 minutes early. Drop her off. She got a big smile on her face. But she was stressed for two hours, the poor thing. So I waited till the next day and I said, bri, really simple. We could have been late. But we weren't. But either we were late or not. Wouldn't it have been better for your heart, for your health, for your happiness, for the end of a great trip in Utah with your dad and your brother? Wouldn't have been great to say, you know what? Make it. I'm going to be there in time. No big deal. I'm going to get there and I'm going to bond with my friends. It's going to be amazing. And Monday and school will be great. I said, what is that? What happened? She goes, yeah, that's exactly what happened. Monday went. You know. She ended up telling me afterwards that Monday went great because they bonded. I said, wouldn't it have been better to tell yourself that story over and over? And you would have had a great plane ride. You wouldn't have had stress, you wouldn't have had worry. And she's like, wow, dad, that's the first time ever. I really understand what you say about being the witness of your thoughts or looking at your thoughts or judge your thoughts. So let me ask you, what thoughts could you change right now? Listen, I'll be completely transparent. My ex wife, who I'm dear friends with. And yeah, divorce sucks, for lack of a better word, but we've done an amazing job at it. And the reason I'm bringing that up is because I watch her sometimes go down the path of having thoughts that'll drive her nuts. Like, why didn't it work out in the past? Why couldn't have we done something different? Or how come this is happening now? And I always tell her, I'm like, and I can watch her come right back. She'll get in a grumpy mood, I'll drop the kids off, she'll like, hey, short with me. And I know she's letting thoughts get to her, which we all do. And then I remind her, she changes her thoughts. She's a completely different person. I remember listening to Wayne Dyer when he got diagnosed with leukemia. It's not what he passed away of, but when he died. When he got diagnosed with leukemia, he said he remembers telling himself, oh, my God, I'm sick. I have leukemia. I'm not going to make it. He felt like shit. He said, wait a minute, I have leukemia. Either way, the end result's gonna be the Same either way. So I'm just gonna think, I'm gonna beat it. I'm gonna be healthy. I'm gonna be the example for leukemia victims or people with that disease. He changed it. And all of a sudden, he was the happiest guy you ever saw with leukemia, only because he changed one thing. His thoughts. So back to you. What thoughts are you having right now that don't serve you? They don't serve your bigger future. Judge them, analyze them. They are not you. There's two of us in there. Remember, you have double conversations all the time. You're not schizo. We have two conversations. You know, you could be walking in a room while simultaneously, you're saying, wow, why did they wear that? Or, wow, this is a weird color painting that they put up on the wall. Like, you know, we have two thoughts always going on in our head. So with those two thoughts, divide one. To analyze your thoughts. Be like, why the hell would you think that? Why would you think we're going to be late? Miss it. My friends aren't going to like me when you can think. I'm gonna be on time and my friends are gonna love me. One makes you feel happy. One makes you feel like shit. One can say, I learned from a bad relationship and my next one's gonna be amazing, or my past relationship, I screwed up, I suck, and I'm always gonna be miserable. One makes you happy, one makes you sad. Wayne Dyer could have said, I have leukemia. This sucks. I'm gonna be sick, I'm gonna die. Or I have leukemia, I'm gonna beat it, and I'm gonna still. One makes you sad. One makes you happy. One makes you empowered. One takes away your power. Which one do you want? I'm asking you right now to think about this. What are the stinking thoughts that you're having in your head that are holding you back, causing you pain, making you suffer, and not allowing you go to the next level? Analyze your thoughts this week more than ever before in your life. That's my message. I appreciate you guys. Remember to go to subscribetodeen.com so we can make sure to get you bonuses and free stuff when we send it. And appreciate the likes. Appreciate all the comments, appreciate you guys all on Instagram and Facebook as well. I'll talk to you guys soon. Remember, all success starts right here. If you liked this podcast, make sure you rate it and also make sure to click subscribe so you never miss out. You can always follow us on Instagram. And if you don't already have millionaire success habits. You can grab it for free at Dean's freebook. Com. Remember, all success starts here.