Make 2022 The Best Year of Your Life
21 Jan 2022 · 13 min
Dean Graziosi walks through a goal-setting exercise that starts with radical honesty about where you are now, then uses a visualization to look back from a year of success. He pushes hard on attaching deep emotion to your goals, going seven levels deep into your why so they actually stick.
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All change. All change starts with you being honest. All goals start with you being honest. All dreams that become a reality start with honesty. Welcome to the Dean Graziosi Show. All success starts right here. If I said to you with complete honesty, you're here for a reason. If everything was perfect, you'd be on the beach drinking a margarita. Drinking a margarita or having a Corona right now and. Or ordering some hors d'. Oeuvres. I don't know. Right. You're here because you want to go to another level of life, another level of income, happiness, joy, abundance, health. Correct. Is that true? Where are you in your health? Right. Put it in the comment. Where are in your health? Where are you in your relationships and love, intimacy, passion? Where are you with your certainty or uncertainty? Right. Where are you with your joy and happiness? Where are you with your income? Where are you in your business? Now, I'm going to go through this process today. I'm going to pick one or two segments. You can go through this process over and over again in all different areas of your life. This exercise we're going to go through, I do it four times a year, so if you've done it with me before, great. I do it four times a year. You should, too, because it's always changing. I always evolving. And how often do we need to see our goals and aspirations and our compelling future in front of us? How often? All the time. That's why people set New Year's resolutions. They write it down. They don't find it until the next year and go, wow, I didn't get any of those. Because you wrote it once. You think it's magically going to happen. We need it in front of our face all the time. Now, if you're completely honest with where you are now. Right. It's like our gps. If we know where we're going to go, we need to know where we're going to start. And it's okay if you have certain jealousy, envy, anger, or maybe compassion. Maybe some of you feel like, I want more, but I should be grateful for what I have. I'm blessed, right? Did you ever meet somebody who goes, yeah, I'm blessed. I should be grateful. Yeah, you should be. We're alive. 150,000 people die every single day. None of you did that. I could see you or if you're on YouTube. We didn't. So we're blessed just to be here, that we woke up today and we have another day to fight the good fight. Of course you're blessed, but it doesn't mean you should be satisfied with where you are. I don't think God, the universe, whoever you believe, our creator is like, oh, let's just put them down on Earth to live a status quo life. I think we're designed to tap into our full potential. Except at the end, if you don't want one of those videos of the woman or the man you could have been, I think it's our obligation to go all in. So if you acknowledge where you are right now with honesty, what's the first thing that comes to mind? If you're really honest? Right, what's the first thing? And it could be in your health, relationships, income, you know, where are you? Should you be doing your own thing? Should you be making more money? Should you have a deeper connection? Should you be in better shape? Should you feel more happiness or joy? Don't just say, I should be happy. I am blessed. I should be more grateful. I should not feel depressed or sad. I should not have anxiety. Listen, stop beating yourself up. Life doesn't have to be horrible. A lot of those things are just knowing you have more to give and you're not giving it. So it's time to be honest. So where are you? And you know what? If you want to pick one, the most important thing on your mind, let's go through one together and you can go back and do it on others. So where are you? Maybe in your relationship, where are you with your business or your career or your income? Okay, so now if you know where you are, the next thing is where do you want to go? Where do you want to go? You're here and you want to go here. So where do you want to go? What does this look like? Now, again, those of you who've done this with me, let's do it again, play full out. Because this is the biggest game changer. This exercise is the foundation of everything we taught. This is how we set our goals. Now here's what I want you to think about. Most of the time, when we set goals, we are looking forward into the future. I want this. I'd like to be making 50 grand a month. I'd like more intimacy, more passion, better shape, better connection with my daughter, better connection with my mom. We're looking into the future. And for me, it is really hard for me to set goals that way. Looking forward is hard because we have so much going on. It's like we have a dust cloud around us, right? This thing, it saves time, but also eats up the time it allows us to do so Many things. We're going, go, go, go, go, right? If we're going that hard, if we're going that fast, sometimes we can't see our compelling future. We're just happy to get through a day. Who in here in the last month has gotten through a day and your head hit the pillow at night and you're just like, thank God I got through the day. Who's had a day like that in the last couple months? So I want you guys to. I want to give you this hack, and I really want you to hear me. This is what I do. This is not just me teaching you. This is my life. And I've been blessed to achieve a lot. And those that I know that follow this process and system can do more than you ever dreamed possible. I promise you, you can. So instead of looking forward to your goals, I want you to pretend it's a year from now and we're looking back and it's the best year of your life. What would have to happen? If you pick one category, what would have to happen? Let's just say career. Let's just pick career, income, business. If it was a year from now and it was the best year of your life, what had to happen with your career, your income, or your business to make you go, damn, that was an amazing year? And if you want to pick intimacy, passion, connection, relationship, you want to pick health, fitness, pick one. This is how. And I want to give you this. Like, what I want you guys to do is not just say. It's not thinking about who you're going to be. It's tricking your brain. Hear me on this one. I know you've heard this before. I'm not the first person to ever teach you this. You may have heard it from me, but we're here right now. And maybe you need to hear it right now at this moment so it becomes real. Because sometimes you hear it and it still doesn't become a part of your life. The biggest thank you you could give me for today's training is, is make this a part of your life. Because your family deserves another level of you. Because you know you got it. You know it's in there. Pretend for a moment it is. A year from now, we're back here. We're on Zoom. It's January 4th, 2023, and you are on fire. You are celebrating because it happened. It could be any area of your life. You're making 50 grand a month. You're serving other people. You're doing events. You have a course you Lost the weight. You found love, or you're in love. Your husband and you are connected. You, your fitness, you feel amazing. You can play with your grandchildren, your children, not be out of breath. Your diabetes is cured. Naturally, your husband finally sees the woman that you are on the inside and the outside. I don't know what it is for you, but I don't want you to think it could happen. I want you to pretend for a moment it did. And you're back here and you want to raise your hand. You want me to pick on you so you could say, oh, my God. Oh my God. I'm selling 17 courses a week. On average, they're $500 each. I'm making $6,000 a week and I'm impacting people around the world. I'm doing my first live event or my husband and I are connected like we were when we first met. My children and I are aligned. I lost 72 pounds, 17 pounds, 7 pounds. I don't know. You can't look to it. You have to trick your mind as if it already happened. If it's a year from now and it was the best year of your life, what had to happen? You see, I did this exercise and I do this exercise and there's some things I write down. I want to be more connected to my children. I want to be the father that understands. What my grandmother did for me is she grew with me and she really understood. Every year. I lived with my grandmother most of my childhood. She understood what it was like to be 13 and have hormones and be all confused. She knew what it was like to be 15. Like she was with me at every moment. She like was the perfect Grandma for a 7 year old, a 17 year old and a 27 year old. It was amazing. My grandmother did this. How the hell with a seventh grade education, my grandmother did this. She was amazing. I'm the man I am today because of her. I want to be that for my kids. I was missing the boat a little bit with my son. I don't ever want that to happen. So I always want to be in alignment to the right age that they're at. I'm on Snapchat. I only have three people, my wife and my two kids. Only way I communicate with my kids is through snap. I text my daughter, I get nothing. I snap her 30 seconds, she replies back. I want to evolve and know where they are and I want that to be better and deeper. In 2022, I want my wife to feel even more connected to me. In 2022. I wrote down that I want to go on a date night a week. No matter what happens. I want two vacations a year just with my wife. Right. I wrote down the things and I didn't write them down. I visualized us sitting on a beach and us celebrating. Even my little boy back up in the room. I visualized that. I visualized my son high fiving me like dad, that was cool. I visualize. I know what I want to do in my business, in my personal development business. I want to make sure that everybody has the capabilities, everybody I can scream to has the capabilities to live in to their full potential. We're going to do a launch this year. I know exactly. I visualize that we're going to put a million people in our challenge in August. We're going to do something in August. You'll be a million people. It'll be free. You'll have the opportunity to be a part of it. I've already visualized that. I already visualized how it's going to feel to watch a million people go. I, I get it. I could be more, I could do more. I've already visualized it. So when I think it, I feel it. I can visualize so much that I get goosebumps on something that hasn't even happened. So the reason I went a little deep on that is because so many of us are looking to our goals of what could happen. And then our brain thinks, yeah, but no one supports you. Yeah, but you don't have money. Yes, but you're an introvert. Yes. You suck on video. And all of a sudden your goals get all clouded and you don't get to write down your true essence. When you pick yourself up out of those thoughts, you put yourself a year from now and you look backwards and you say, this has already happened. It's a different story. Now we know where we want to be. We just need to get to here. So what do we have to do to fill this gap to make sure it's a reality? Right. We have to fill the gap. So there's a couple things I want you to think of. First off, one of the most important things to get here is just because you want it, just because you write it down isn't enough. You have to attach an emotion to it. We must attach an emotion to our goals or they never become a reality. Please write that down. We must attach an emotion to our goals or they won't become a reality. Okay, so come back over here. So the emotion behind it is your why? Why? Do you want it now? For those of you that joined Accelerated Success Formula, those of you that have it, we'll go through this process in detail. It's called the seven Levels Deep. I learned it from a gentleman named Joe Stump. Changed my life 13 years ago. Forever. I'll never be the same because of what that man taught me. But it really helps us uncover the emotion behind us wanting to go to another level. You guys are all here for a bigger reason. You didn't come because you have nothing to do on a Tuesday afternoon. You have a why. Why do you want to go from where you are to where you want to be? There's a gap. You want to get there. There's a gap in your relationship, in your health, in your love, in your passion, in your intimacy, in your income and what you do for a living, your career, the business you started. You're here. There's a gap, but why do you want to do it? And the deeper your why, the more emotionally tied to your heart, your why is the better chance you have of achieving those results. As always, our podcast is free. We don't even sell advertising space. So how you could pay us back is by helping other people get this information in their hands. So if you enjoyed today's podcast, go ahead and take a second and rate and review the show and and tell a friend. Heck, take a snapshot and put it on your Instagram. It's the best way for you to help other action takers get the knowledge they need to live into their full potential. And if you haven't already, go ahead and subscribe now to get access to new episodes three times a week. And as always, you can go to the description for this podcast and check out the special links I shared with you to take your success, freedom, and abundance to a whole nother level.
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