When Dreaming Big Will Betray You

When is looking backwards good? When can looking backwards actually propel you forward? Welcome to the Dean Graziosi show. All success starts right here. Now, in most cases, you're going to hear me and Tony both say that you can't take your life to a whole nother level. You can't go where you want. You can't drive towards your compelling future. If you're trying to run your life by looking in the rearview mirror. You know, so many of us are looking backwards of what went wrong, who let us down, the time that we procrastinate, the time we let ourselves down, the time we let fear stop us. We hesitated and the world passed us by and we felt left behind, right? Most of the time we're always going to say, do not look in the rearview mirror and expect you could drive the car. What are you going to do? You're going to run into something in moments, right? So we have to be looking forward. We have to look into our present and our future, create compelling futures. Understand what we have in these moments that can fuel us rather than what we don't have from the past, right? If you're going, I don't have the education, I don't have the support from family and friends. If you focus on what you don't have or you focus on your screw ups, what are you going to get more of it, right? So today, why am I being, like, going against the grain, saying there is one time when we must look backwards to move forward. And this is what it is. You see, I watch so many people not realize that one area of their life that they think isn't perfect can actually tarnish and cripple all the other areas of their life. What do I mean by that? So we have this Persona, this perception of our ideal selves. Think about it. Think about it. Who, if you're honest with me, wait till I'm done sharing with you. Who would say yes or I agree to the fact that if we get our bodies in shape right, like finally you shed the weight, you feel healthy, you can, you know, whatever that is, doesn't mean you have a six pack. It just means you feel at a weight that's comfortable for you. You're breathing better. Before you could walk faster, run faster, and you got that and you feel it. But then you go home and go, man, my relationship just, it's not where it should be. We lost the intimacy, we lost the passion. God damn it, I'm a failure. Or the relationship is perfect. It's amazing. It makes you feel good. But then you go to your office and go, oh, this job, this just isn't for me. Shit, I'm disappointed. Or, the job is good and the relationship is good, but you go, you know what? I could have been a better mom. I should be a better mom, right? Here's this thing. We have this problem. It's the human condition. It's our subconscious. We are always comparing ourselves to the ideal version of ourselves. And what I want to tell you is that ideal, perfect vision version of ourself doesn't exist. It is the horizon. I don't care how fast you go west. You can run as fast as you want. You can get in a car, you can get in a train, you can get in a plane. I don't care how fast you go, you cannot catch the horizon. Can't catch the horizon. It's always going to be in front of you. And this is why I wanted to share this today. This is why we are a culture of progress. Because if you try to chase the horizon, meaning chasing your ideal self, you are always going to let yourself down and you're never going to be that person. And then here's the worst part. Oh, my God. Here's the worst part, is when we start chasing the horizon, right? We come in here and you're chasing the horizon. Like, I should be doing more with kbb. I should have read more. I should have implemented more. Why am I so pathetic? Why do I procrastinate? Oh, my God. Look at this person. Look at John, look at Sally, look at Bernice, look at Debbie, look at Tom. Look. Look what they're doing. I'm pathetic. And all of a sudden your subconscious goes, yeah, we're pretty pathetic. We're procrastinators. We screw shit up. We don't take action. And. And all of a sudden you let that cripple you and you let your subconscious say, yeah, it's better just to sit here on our hands. We don't do shit. We're not players like these other people. That's bs. You're comparing yourself to others, and you're comparing yourself to the ideal version of you. Oh, my God. How can you not be crippled? How can you not feel that you're flawed? That you're an imposter, Right? We got this new term, we're imposter syndrome. Bullshit. You're scared. Congratulations. We're all freaking scared. Then we have to have the confidence to take action. Confidence isn't the lack of fear. Confidence is being scared shitless and doing it anyway. You don't think I still feel that way on a regular basis about a million different things. I'm 51. I just had a baby. My wife wants four more. You don't think I'm scared shitless about that? Especially because I'm a present dad. I'm not like, oh, just tuck them over on the side and let someone else raise them. I. We don't even have a nanny. We raise our children. Plus I have 13 companies. Plus launching stuff with Tony every single day and a million other things and hiring people and you know, I won't even go into. We all have our shit. I'm scared to death, but I have to be courageous. But if I look at it and go, wow, Tony did it better. Richard Branson did it better. John Paul DiGiorio. Oh, my God. Sarah Blakely, damn it. She's a billionaire and she's just got everything figured out and life is easy for her. Bullshit. She's got the same worries and fears I do, right? But if we look at that and say, well, I could have. I mean, listen, I question myself all the time. Can I be a better dad? Can I be a better husband? Can I be a better leader for you? Like, there is a million things going on and if I focus on my shortcomings, I want to crawl underneath my desk, I want to hide and I want to say, like, you're not good enough. You're an imposter. This is too heavy. The world has shifted too much. The economy is going to hell in a handbasket. We're going into a depression. The world hasn't evolved. America hasn't evolved fast enough. What's going on? Like, I could tell myself all of that. And it's easy to do for all of us because we're chasing the horizon. We're chasing the ideal, perfect version of us. We're chasing the so called other person who's got it all figured out. Bullshit calling bullshit. So how do we change that? That's the only time I'm giving you permission to look backwards. You see, when we compare ourselves to the ideal version of ourselves, when we compare ourselves to someone else we think has it all figured out, we feel less about ourselves, we drop our confidence, we're less courageous. We don't have a battle cry to go into fighting for what we deserve, what we want and how we want to help others, Right? We play small. So this is the whole culture. This is the first time I really explain why I call this a culture of progress. Here it is. Now you're going to understand this community, why it's the greatest community in the world. Because the only person you need to compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday. If you like today's podcast, then you're going to love being a part of my texting community. What's that mean? You could text me right now at 480-400-9019 or it should be below, right here. And it comes directly to my phone. Doesn't go to my team, it comes to me. I've been absolutely loving the interaction. I send out some cool things about once a week. I text nothing but things to get your week going, to get your mind thinking. And when we have new videos and things like that, I always text my community first. It has absolutely been a blast, and I'd love for you to do it right now. Text me 480-400-9019 do it. Text me.