Why You Deserve a Second Chance

Here's the thing. We could be defined by what we've done wrong, or we can truly. And you already know this, but I want to talk about a little deeper. We can learn from that and decide to forgive ourselves. Welcome to the Dean Grazios Show. All success starts right here. I am completely engaged. I don't take it for granted. I work on it every day. And I don't think I could do better in a relationship now than ever before in my life. And I'm giving all of me with no hesitation. I'm giving all of me with no hold back. And I'm getting the same in return. It's the reason I move so fast, the reason I got engaged. The more love I give, the more I'm getting back all these great things. So why am I telling you that? Because I screwed up a lot in past relationships. Like, I don't want to be that guy that looks like or leads you from the top of the hill and say, look at me. I'm in the best shape of my life at 50. I'm making more money than I've ever made. I'm in a perfect relationship. I'm a great dad. Can I tell you something? And most of those reasons is because I made some bad parenting decisions. I've gone broke more than once. I've been divorced. I screwed up relationships. I made bad mistakes. But here's the thing. We could be defined by what we've done wrong, or we can truly. And you already know this, but I want to talk about a little deeper. We can learn from that and decide to forgive ourselves for past and to learn from it. I think if you're God, the king of the universe, whatever you believe in, I think you make a mistake and you keep doing it. It's like, ugh. But you make a mistake, even if you make it two or three times, but finally one day, you learn from it and decide to never do that again. I think that's what life is. I think it's. It's learning from this. So I wanted, before I get into what I want to train today, I want to talk about second chances. I'll talk about third chances, fifth chances. I want you today. This is just us having a conversation, right? This isn't me on stage, not me trying to, you know, trying to remember, you know, the presentation. This is me talking to you right now. You deserve a second, a third, a fourth, a fifth chance. It's not someone else's thing. It's your thing. I want to talk about second, third, fourth, fifth Chances and I'm going to be really personal in my last relationship. My ex is awesome. She's a dear friend of mine. But we started that relationship off not on the best. I was coming out of a relationship, she was coming out of a relationship. It was just a time and path. It was. I didn't work on it. I didn't. It was a convenient relationship. We laughed, it was cool and we dated. And I'm going to share something I never shared. We got pregnant with my daughter before we were married. Didn't even know if we were going to get married. In fact, we didn't get married after my ex got pregnant. Two years later we had my son. We still didn't get married. Two years later, decided to get married and both of us are like, yeah, it's probably a good idea since we're parents together. That's how the relationship went. And I have to tell you, I look back, I didn't work to fix it. I don't know if it wasn't. The relationship wasn't there and I was scared to try. I don't know. All I know is that I'm just as responsible as her for mistakes made. I'm just as responsible for that marriage ending in a divorce. I didn't do a lot of the right things. I made bad decisions during that relationship. I hurt her, she hurt me. She did some stupid stuff. I did some stupid stuff. We probably were never meant to be in a relationship. We're better friends now than we were in a relationship. We're kick ass co parents. Our kids come first. We did a child centered divorce. We are killing it as co parents. Our kids are thriving in a Listen, it's not ideal. I'm not an advocate of divorce in any way, so please put that note down. But this was a relationship that wasn't going to work and we kicked ass on being co parents. But I want to tell you I know what it's like to feel like a failure. I know what it's like to feel like missing your kids. I know what it's to feel like you're screwing them up. I know what it feels like to know that I hurt her and made some dumb choices while we were together and didn't care as much as I should and didn't listen. But here's the thing. I could have been defined by that. I could have also said, hey, I screwed up so bad in my last relationship, maybe I should never should have happened that I don't deserve love or love doesn't work for Me or love doesn't exist in the whole world. But instead I found a way to give myself permission to be open to a second chance. To be open. To not giving up. To obsessing on people who had great relationships and extracting their knowledge. To looking back at my relationships that didn't work and figure out what didn't work and never do it again. To look at what was working and compound that. To literally read book after book on what makes a connected, passionate, intimate relationship stick. How does someone at 50, 60, 80 years old still hold hands, love each other, still want to kiss? I interviewed those people and obsessed on them. I gained that knowledge and guess what? I gave myself permission to be open to another chance. I found the greatest relationship of my life. I'm not one of those fall in love overnight. I'm not girl crazy. I don't. I'm not a dreamer. I'm a realist. At least that's what the term I'd say. And I figure real love on that deep level, maybe most people don't get it, but when I lifted that and decided to go for it, I found it. Literally. I sat down with Tony Robbins and I wrote down all of the things that were unacceptable in my next relationships. My next relationship. And I wrote down all of the things that were a must in my next relationship. You could do that with the current relationship you're in too. I wrote them down, I stared at them, I looked at them once a week. And I found that relationship. I have a partner for the rest of my life. When? I don't know if you saw my Instagram. You should go check out the video. It's pretty cool. I had a cameraman. I was telling her we were just going to take some shots on the beach while we were in Cabo. She's always asking me to do pictures. I said, fine, we'll get somebody to take pictures. And I dropped on one knee and asked her to marry me. It was the most excited I've been in my entire life about a relationship, about getting married, about being in love. It's brought me to a whole nother level. So why am I sharing that, my personal story? Because I don't want you to think I got this shit all figured out. You don't have to have it figured out. And it's okay if you screwed up, excuse my language. If you fucked up more than once, a whole bunch of times, if you let people down, if you hurt someone, I don't believe you're a bad person. I believe you made a Bad decision we can loathe in it. We could focus on what we did wrong or what other people did wrong to us, or we could say, enough is enough. Today is the decision. I did wrong in the past or someone did me wrong, but that is the past. I'm going to learn from those mistakes. I'm going to model somebody who's doing it right. And damn it, I am bringing that into my life. Zero questions. When I made that decision, I manifested the relationship I'm in. So many people look at Lisa and I, my fiance and she did the same thing. They're like, oh, you two got so lucky. Screw that. It wasn't. Look, I decided who I was going to be with. I wrote down who was not acceptable. I. I wrote down hair color, size, like the height. I wrote down how she is with her health, how she is working on her own personal growth, how she's self, you know, like self motivating, but wants to be connected to somebody. I want somebody that wants to travel with me. I wrote down everything that was a must and everything that was unacceptable. Somebody who, you know, talks about the glass half empty, somebody who talks about other people, someone who's not into their health, someone who's not sociable, like all these things. And I just decided to do nothing else except that unacceptable, acceptable. And I brought that into my life, and so did she. I want to say this. If you are down and out right now, you deserve a second and third chance. If your business is doing okay or you're getting ready to start your business or just starting off doing okay, you deserve for that to be a monster. If your business is thriving like some of you, I know so many of you on here who are crushing it. It's time for your next level. You deserve this. You're ready for this. And if your business is crushing, but your health sucks. If your business is crushing and your relationship is eh. If you're more excited about being out on the road and seeing strangers than the person at home, we got to fix that shit. Seriously. I was aligned in so many parts of my life, except for my relationship, and. And now I can't tell you how it feels to be congruent in all areas of my life. So I'd love for you to take all these pieces and balance each area of your life because you deserve it.

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