Ep 66 Recap & Lessons w Kasey Compton | #MUIYB Mike Up In Your Business Podcast

When you brown bag, like, what was your most common food item that you had? Or what was the, what was the composite of the stuff?

You mean in the bag? Like, what was the lunch?

Yeah, what'd your mom or dad or no one send you with?

So if I, if I brought lunch, it was usually, majority of time would be either a peanut butter and jelly sandwich or an egg salad. I love egg salad too, and it smells.

Oh my God, you open the bag and it's like everybody looks at you.

Everyone's like, And you know, it always used to really annoy me that my mom would never cut on a diagonal.

I always—

I'm like, just please cut. Everybody else has a diagonal cut and I get the straight cut and you just look— it just looks so uncool.

Yeah, it is the vertical cut.

I had the vertical cut too, just a fat little wedge, that little rectangles.

Yeah, that was awful.

The other thing I always made my lunch.

I don't think my mom ever made my lunch.

I had Really?

Even in grade school?

Yeah, I don't think—

I can't remember.

Yeah, I don't— I only remember making my own lunches.

Kelsey was the fourth child. There wasn't anybody making her lunches. They were over it by then.

I was like—

oh, sorry, I was saying this is off topic, but this just reminded me one thing that I always did. I got yelled at by my mom because she would say I was only allowed to have chocolate milk once a week, right? And I distinctly remember being in 8th grade. I was in 8th grade and I was drinking white milk and everybody at the table was drinking chocolate milk and they're all making fun of me and they're like, why aren't you drinking chocolate milk? I was like, my mom told me I can only have it once a week.

And they're like, she wouldn't know if you grabbed chocolate milk. She's not here.

And I was like—

You're in 8th grade?

Yeah.

Oh no!

And I was like, you're right!

What the heck?

I've been drinking regular milk and I haven't been having chocolate milk?

8th grade is when you retaliated against the milk.

Yeah, that's awesome.

He put his foot down. Oh no, that's so fun. What did your mom make, Mike?

So there was always a fruit snack. So it was an apple already sliced. Oh, sometimes an orange already peeled.

Wow.

Whoa. Wow.

Then there would be a sandwich, which was usually peanut butter and jelly, or maybe turkey or something. And then, uh, the treat snack would be like one cookie or, uh, one of those like little nutrition bars or whatever. And then the drink would be a thermos. It's always a thermos of something, which was usually probably orange juice.

I never had a thermos.

But he said that's the important part. Was it a metal lunchbox with the map?

Well, when it's young, young, young, there's a metal lunchbox. Yeah, all the way till 8th grade. When I took out my milk. My friends are like, why are you eating chocolate milk or drinking chocolate milk? And I'm like, what?

Oh, that's so funny, Jared.

My mom only lets me do it once a week.

I love that you were so integral, like I'm not allowed to drink chocolate milk.

I know, I tried. Well, I mean, hey, I was doing— she gave me money for school, so I figured I could at least respect her one milk, you know? But here's the other thing that I just remembered, and I just remembered this. I had a Pee-wee Herman lunchbox, a lunch box and a thermos. And I was too young at the time to understand, but then he masturbated in a movie theater. And my mom refused to let me take it to school. And I was so upset. And I was like, why not, Mom?

Why?

And she's like, I'll tell you when you're older. And I was like, so upset and distraught.

That is hysterical. Mike, we were grown-ass people when we found out that he masturbated in a theater.

I know. I know.

I know.

That was funny.

Jeremy was still going to school with the lunchbox. Oh my God.

Well, this, this I think is perfect timing for therapy and go figure. That's who I'm interviewing. Um, Casey Compton is a therapist who has applied her entrepreneurial skills to the therapy industry, but you'll find out a lot more businesses. This is a story of how you go from struggling to, you know, I think it was $6.5 million plus in 10 years. That's not it. So there was Casey Compton in her 30s. I mean, just a whirlwind of energy and commitment and devotion and passion, purpose.

What'd you guys think?

I love her. I love her. I mean, I thought like that in and of itself is so inspiring, the fact that she's 36 and it's basically been within the last 6 years that she's built up this empire, this conglomerate of businesses. And she does it in such an integral way and in service to everybody who utilizes her businesses, but also all of her employees.

It's just super beautiful. Smart too. I liked how, so with the salon, she's kind of hands-off, but then she makes sure that she handles the social media and marketing for them. So she's taking care of her other, she's taking care of business in that sense. That just everything she did, and it was just really mind-blowing how much she has accomplished already and how much she tackles, how much she has to tackle daily in order to run these businesses so well. It's amazing.

Yeah, and I love when she said that she's driven when she has clarity around what she wants to do.

Oh, right, right.

I think that's such an important thing to hear because it's easy to get down on ourselves when we feel like we're not driven, but if you're not motivated towards something that you're really passionate about or really have a clear direction, even if you're not passionate about it, it's, it's hard to be driven and it's hard to sometimes find that thing.

Yeah.

So it's nice to hear.

It is nice. And that spoke to me too. Somebody called me lazy once and it was so hurtful. I mean, it like pierced me to my core and the person who called me lazy, because I feel that way about myself too. When I know what it is that I would like to create, oh my gosh, I don't stop for breakfast, lunch, or dinner. I don't get hungry. I just, I go, I go, and I love that, that momentum and that passion. But often it's artistic things that are my visions. So the person who called me that was very business-minded and business-focused. And, um, I assume I look lazy compared to, to them. It was like, I just love that she said that. It's sort of like highlighted for me about how important it is to have that passion, that picture basically to help you feel the passion.

I thought it was fascinating was, uh, I think it was a turning moment for her was when she's lying flat on her back she's pregnant, uh, and she's on bed rest. And so she says— this is maybe not the exact word she said to herself— but this is a time to think and plan. Like, you, regardless of the circumstances around you, she— you had the opportunity to think and plan. She was working diligently on her business when she couldn't move. I think that's how she always is, is when she's inactive, she's highly active planning. And I attribute that to a lot to the results that she's seen.

Mm-hmm.

Jeremy, anything you took from this?

Oh yeah, two things that she said that I really think that, you know, kind of go with anybody who's running a business. She said she's not going to tell someone to do something that she won't do or she hasn't done.

Mm-hmm.

So set an example. And then she wants her employees to want her but not need her. So she tries to make sure that they have the tools they need and empowers them. But, you know, they don't have to have her in order to run the business.

And I think the— even more than the time to think, perhaps the biggest defining moment was when she said she's gonna select the people she surrounds herself with.

Yeah.

You know, and so she was surrounded by 5 people that were not serving her life's purpose. And it sounded like it was gonna go down a path that she did not want for herself. So she actively decided who to be with, and her husband included, right? And I think the results speak for themselves.

Yeah.

And I think that's super true in general. Like, think about the people who surround you. Obviously, everybody is valuable and everybody brings you lessons, But there are some people who fuel you, who, you know, ignite a spark for you. And there are people who drain you. So try to be cognizant of that and very like intentional with how you spend your time with people.

Yeah. I think like when I think about, um, programs like you're in Vistage, Kelsey, I participated in EO for almost two decades. That these organizations are a way to intentionally surround ourselves with people that have maybe parallel visions to us, people that are perhaps playing at a better or higher level, whatever that's defined as, in different elements where we're also playing at a higher level in a different element from them. And then it starts this collective elevation. I think it's really important. And the nice thing is, like Casey pointed out, you don't have to join a paying organization to experience that. She just selected the people and started hanging out with them. Um, so it's available freely for you, but you have to make that hard decision, I think, to abandon or reduce your time with those other— you gotta, you know, you gotta make a cognitive cutoff to cognitively join.

Yeah, definitely.

That's the word—

the use of cognitive inappropriately twice in a row.

I also like how she made the, the, uh, distinguish between goal versus purpose.

Yeah.

Like, so your goal is to make money as a business, but your purpose can be to help these people, help people, right?

And you're not going to be able to help these people until you reach your goal. So purpose comes after goal, which is— that was interesting.

Right, that's right. Jay Shlone, you got a little, uh, little game time for us?

Yes, I do. All right, so this is a Southern trivia quiz. All right. Yeah, a little bit different. And honestly, I had some of the stuff I never heard of.

I—

a lot of them were common, I thought, so I had to sift through and like really pick out the ones that were different. But, um, and this relates because obviously she has a Southern accent. I love it, it's great. So in the South— now I don't know which region this is, but this is just Southern in general— what does the term finna, F-I-N-N-A, mean? Is it finishing something, preparing a meal, or preparing to do something? Okay. Okay. When Southerners say Coke, what are they referring to? A root beer, Dr Pepper, birch beer, or any soda?

Okay.

All right, question 3. What does might/could mean? Tomorrow, later, maybe, or never? How do you think you guys did? I want to say—

yeah, I'd say 2 out of 3.

Okay, I say 1 out of 3.

Okay, so the term finna, does it mean finishing something, preparing a meal, or preparing to do something?

I said preparing a meal, it just seemed the most specific.

I said preparing to do something.

I put finish.

Oh, Amy, you got it! Preparing to do something.

I had family in the Ozarks. I think I've heard it before.

What would be— give me an example of a sentence with finna.

Um, uh, I'm finna get to market. Um, um, like, I'm— it's almost like a combination of I'm figuring to and gonna.

It's a verb.

Oh, so it's plan— I got you. That makes sense. It's a combination of two words.

Gotcha.

Well, I don't know if it really is, but that's like how I hear it.

I thought it'd be, I'm fixing to do something is perfect. I'm fixing to head out in a couple hours.

I think it's like that. I think it's a lot like this.

Yeah, we're so lame. We're such northerners. Like you think, it's funny when someone's like, oh, you have a southern accent. It's like, dude, you got a northern accent. Listen to our accents. I don't understand what the hell you're saying.

Even with the 4 of us in New Jersey, we could all have Slightly different, yeah.

Oh, I'm the southernmost one.

Yeah, can we talk about how Jeremy keeps saying our like our as our?

What?

What are you talking about? When you say rate our podcast.

Rate our podcast.

Our, rate our podcast.

I said rate our podcast.

Rate our, we say rate our podcast, you say rate our podcast.

Interesting.

Radar, sounds like radar.

Okay. Let me ask you this. What do you call the item that you put your head on when you go to sleep?

Pillow?

Yeah, pillow.

Pillow. What do you say?

A pillow?

Pillow?

What were you expecting?

I used to say pillow.

Pillow? Yeah. Wow.

So in South Jersey, it's "wooder." It's not water.

Yeah.

So I had to actively correct and learn to say water.

'Cause everybody already says "wadder." What about the surface of your house at the very top? What is that called?

Oh yeah, northerners say—

I say "roof." Roof. But like a lot of people say "roof." Roof.

Yeah, we say roof. Roof.

Yeah.

I say roof. I do say "wadder." I do with a D. W-A-D-D-E-R.

I do too, I think.

My wife's like, "Well, you can't pronounce it." I'm like, "Is it 'water'?" She's like, "That's even worse!" Like, I can't get that word right.

Do you say "root" or "route"?

It's funny, I switch it up. I notice if I say, I say Route 46, but you take that route.

Route 23.

Route 23.

Yeah, that's funny.

Route 23, Route 46.

All right.

Okay, here's the best one. What do you call the thing in your car that cools the engine down?

I don't know.

You don't even know. That was way too technical.

Radiator?

A radiator. Radiator versus radiator.

Yeah, exactly.

Yeah, radiator.

That is hysterical about the route though, because I didn't even realize you guys say it separately, and maybe I do too, for two highways, and one you call route and one you call route.

That's—

well, Jerry Seinfeld did an In On joke. He's like, you, you ride in a taxi, but you don't ride in the train, you ride on the train.

Yeah, that's true.

Yeah, this whole thing, like, it makes sense.

It doesn't.

Yeah, you park it, you park in a driveway and you drive on the parkway.

There you go.

I know, crazy, silly.

And inflammable means the same as flammable.

What's with this language? It's crazy.

No, and you know what, I don't get like regardless and irregardless.

I don't think this is the same.

Irregardless isn't a word.

Yeah, yeah, I get corrected every time I use that. There was this guy, it always like, it's not a word, damn it. Why does it exist?

How did it get here?

All right, what's the last one?

We're, we're on number 2. Uh, what do Southerners mean by Coke? Is it root beer, Dr Pepper, birch beer, or any soda?

Any soda.

Any soda.

Any soda.

Yes. However, I thought it was pop.

Yeah, that's— pop is like Midwestern-ish, and I was gonna say, I know they call it pop. Arizona calls it pop.

Okay, okay, interesting.

Yeah, what do you guys call— I just call it soda, right?

Soda.

Yeah, here it's soda. Midwest, it's pop, I guess. And then in the South, it's Coke.

So weird.

You know what confuses people? We use seltzer up here.

Oh, instead of club soda or—

Club soda. There's another word. Sparkling water. Sparkling water.

Well, there's a difference though. One of them contains sodium. And I can't remember which one it is technically.

But if you ask for seltzer in some places, people are like, what's that?

Yeah, that's true.

Sparkling water, they're like, oh, okay.

Yeah.

Um, it's the exact same thing.

Yeah. Um, okay, what does might, could mean? Does it mean tomorrow, later, maybe, or never?

Maybe. Maybe. Maybe.

Yes.

Yay!

Might, could have been maybe.

It might, could be.

Might, could be maybe. So, uh, I got 2. Didn't we get 3?

I got 3.

I got 2.

Good job, Amy!

I haven't had a— what is it called when you win all 3?

3-some?

No, no, no, no, that's not it.

Irregardless.

I haven't had a win-all-3 in a while. That's what I was trying to say.

Oh, is that what you call it in the North? Win-all-3?

Win-all-3.

Trifecta.

Pretty sure that's not what you were looking for. Trifecta!

Trifecta!

That was the words.

So Amy had to win all three. We hope this was a great episode for you too. Hey, why don't you go to rateourpodcast— oh, you are— rateourpodcast.com. Honestly, it's to serve us. If you go there and rate the show right now and give us a review, it gives us feedback that we can use to improve the show, plus it spreads the word. And make sure you subscribe. I don't want you missing a single episode. I hope you don't want to miss a single episode. I'd love to hear any questions you have. Jeremy and I do a Behind the Mic episode every so often where we investigate the questions that are coming in and discuss some kind of tangential stuff. So send your question into askmike@mikemichalowicz.com right now. I think we're done.

That's a good point, tangential. Do you say, I think I say tangental.

I don't use that word.

Transgentle.

I can't do it.

Are you transgentle?

I use the word tangerine. I say tangerine.

Oh, gentle, transgentle.

Tan—

trans—

I'm adding trans. Tans gentle?

Transgentle?

Tan—

gentle.

Transgentle?

It's transgentle.

Wait a minute, are we saying transcendental?

No, we're saying tangental. Tangental.

I said it tangentile.

Tangentile. Transgentle is when you're gentle across— Tangential.

Tangential is the proper pronunciation.

Transgentle.

From the South. I said the Northern pronunciation.

Oh, Lordy. All right, can we leave now? Don't you want to be with us, Mike? You don't want to leave us.

Amy and your 3 winner—

Amy's face lady is making a move.

That's a, uh, that we have to share that with our listeners one day, how she told us of the face labial issues. We have it on video too. We have it on video. Oh, you gotta show—

you gotta show labial folds, people. Labial folds.

It's not—

it's—

the term is not labial.

We have to mark this podcast explicit. Maybe it is labial folds.

Is it facial labial folds?

Yes.

So it's not labia, it's labia folds.

Oh, she was saying labia folds.

Yeah, she was just saying labia. I was saying labia.

You guys just didn't hear me right. You didn't hear me right. You shouted it. I was screaming it and spitting it in your faces.

Interestingly, just for the share, I want to show you what a face labia looks like. That's the picture.

There we go. Okay.

So you're totally right.

And that is what you work the Oreo down to win the cookie in the mouth Olympic Games.

Yeah, but it says superior labial, facial labial, inferior labial. Interesting. All right, let's get out of here. We're really messing up with people. We're gonna have a single, single subscriber.

I don't even want to ask for a review right now.

Don't ask for a review.

All right, let's get out of here.