Rușinea te face să crezi că ceva e în neregulă cu tine. Dar această perspectivă nu e deloc utilă. ☝🏻

How would you define toxic shame and healthy shame? Is there such things as bad shame and good shame? Yeah. People had an original idea the word shame was a moral notion. I've done bad. And then when psychology came along and started talking about shame, then many of the people researching it started saying, you know what? This shame is not only a good thing, a lot of it looks really bad and hurting people. So then the people who loved the moral notion said, well, there's got to be some good. Let's break it into two different things, toxic shame and healthy shame. Shame is a way of looking at oneself that pathologizes. It looks at you as if something's wrong with you that needs to be fixed. It's never useful to have that idea. Never. Is it useful for you to know, I've hurt somebody and I feel bad and remorse and I want to make amends and I want them accountable. Absolutely. But that's not shame. That's not shame.