Mihail Pautovmedic, IC Fundeni · Doctor Mihail - Medic specialist în chirurgie generală, Educator de sănătate

Să fii o persoană bună nu se reflectă doar în cum îi tratezi pe ceilalți. 👨🏼‍⚕️👍🏻

16 Jun 2025 · 1 min

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Short English-language motivational monologue (excerpt) by Mihail Pautov arguing that true kindness begins with self-care and self-respect. The speaker rejects the idea that one must heal or over-give to damaged others to be 'good', instead urging boundaries, refusing rescuer roles, and using the metaphor of "not pouring from an empty cup."

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How can I give while I'm starving? How can I love what I don't give myself love? But if you love him, won't you try to heal him? No. Bullshit. You're doing this because internally you want to be chosen. A lot of people who do a lot of good things when they're broken, they do it for external validation. My job is not to heal my partner. My job is me. My job is to take care of me. When I want to help somebody and that person is broken and he hurts me, breaks me in the process. I'm kind to him, I'm trying to help who's helping me, who's kind to me? And if I'm neglecting myself, I'm a hypocrite. How can I say I'm kind if I'm kind to everyone, but not to me? How can I say I'm good if I'm doing it to everybody but not to me? I'm a hypocrite. There's something wrong only when I am taking care of myself and then I take care of others. Then I'm a kind person. I am first. I take care of me first because I can't pour from an empty cup. It's as simple as that. How can I give while I'm starving? How can I love while I don't give myself love? How can I help when I'm not helping? How can I connect people and give them opportunities? Well, I don't do it to me. I have self respect and I'm kind to me first before anyone else.