Speaker A discovers their fear of disappointing others masks a deeper belief they're fundamentally unlovable. Dr. Jeffrey Gladden helps name this hidden anxiety, showing how unexamined fears disguise themselves as confusion and block authentic self-expression.
And so leaving that dynamic, it was initially a little confusing to me of like, what is this? What's going on? And when I finally saw that my terror to disappoint other people, my terror to do anything that might make them think I was bad or wrong was really what was underneath all of it.
So in essence, you were going to become unlovable.
That's right.
Right. That's right.
Yeah.
By speaking up, you were going to become unlovable. Because ultimately it comes back to ourselves, right? Yes, it was about them, but it's really about you in the end, right? So, or us in the end.
