Dr. Jameca CooperForensic Psychology Consultant, Emergence Psychological Services · Board Certified Counseling Psychologist and Forensic Psychology Consultant

Most people don't understand what boundaries actually mean #boundaries #psychology #mentalhealth

15 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment, Dr. Jameca Cooper explains what personal boundaries truly mean. She clarifies that a boundary is not a punitive ultimatum but an expectation or standard one sets for oneself. Boundaries also specify the consequences that will follow if those standards are breached. She provides a concrete example: she does not tolerate being spoken to in a loud, yelling, or disrespectful tone or with disrespectful words. If someone violates this, she will end the conversation, possibly limit contact temporarily, or even terminate the relationship entirely. The passage emphasizes that clear standards and defined repercussions are essential components of healthy boundaries.

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Let's talk about boundaries. A boundary is not, if you don't do X, Y, and Z, I'm not going to be your friend no more. A boundary is an expectation, a standard that you set for yourself. And it also highlights the consequences of what will happen when said standards or expectations are not met or violated, right? So for example, for me, right, you can't talk to me in a loud or yelling or disrespectful tone or use disrespectful words. What will happen when you do that is I will end said conversation. Potentially cut off access to you temporarily, or I will terminate the relationship so that there is no more access. So see, those are the standards, the expectations that I have, and these are the consequences of what will happen when violations occur.