Dr. Jameca CooperForensic Psychology Consultant, Emergence Psychological Services · Board Certified Counseling Psychologist and Forensic Psychology Consultant

The Truth About Being ‘The Glue’. #strongfriend #overfunctioning #peoplepleaser #boundariesmatter

18 Jun 2025 · 1 min

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In this brief coaching video, Dr. Jameca Cooper addresses people who feel they are the essential ‘glue’ holding their environment together—often overfunctioners and people‑pleasers. She challenges the belief that stopping their constant help will cause collapse, explaining that healthy ecosystems thrive without reliance on a single species. She offers a concrete, low‑stakes exercise: delegate one task this week, no matter how minor, and observe the experience. Cooper also references her course’s Module 4, titled “Boundary Engineering,” which is designed to help listeners build stronger personal boundaries and implement systematic approaches to managing responsibilities.

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You feel like if you stop, everything around you will collapse, right? In fact, it's not true. The healthiest ecosystems don't rely on just one species. This week, try this: delegate one task. Doesn't have to be a big task, just delegate one task. It can be very minor. Try it, see how it feels. Think about this: in my course Module 4's boundary engineering really helps people get their boundaries together so that you can implement a better system.