Dr. Jameca CooperForensic Psychology Consultant, Emergence Psychological Services · Board Certified Counseling Psychologist and Forensic Psychology Consultant

They call you selfless like it’s a compliment but it’s not. #boundariesmatter #selfcaretips

20 Jun 2025 · 1 min

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This content was created by Dr. Jameca Cooper. This content was uploaded by Dr. Jameca Cooper. This is a YouTube video titled "They call you selfless like it’s a compliment but it’s not. #boundariesmatter #selfcaretips" (posted 2025-06-20T01:00:44Z). It contains a short English monologue by a single speaker offering self-care and boundary-setting advice—arguing that being called "selfless" can mean "exploitable," recommending delaying responses to requests to recharge, and promoting a course (Module 4: "Boundary Engineering") with a call-to-action to comment "course" for a sneak peek. A thumbnail URL is provided in the metadata.

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When people call you selfless like it's a compliment, it's not. It's really a code word for exploitable, meaning they can take advantage of you and they probably benefit from it. So chances are they like it, right? Mm, we don't want that. Alternative: next time someone offers you something or presents an opportunity for you or asks you to do something, say, you know what, let me think about this, I'll reconsider. After I recharge, because you can't pour from an empty cup, right? This is a tried and true method to make sure you protect your space and protect your peace. In my course, Module 4's Boundary Engineering will help you implement much better boundary systems. If you're interested, put course in the comment and we'll give you just a little sneak peek of what that looks like.