Dr. Jameca CooperForensic Psychology Consultant, Emergence Psychological Services · Board Certified Counseling Psychologist and Forensic Psychology Consultant

Why 'Just Say No' Feels Impossible. Comment 'BOUNDARIES' for more details #boundaries #mentalhealth

13 Jun 2025 · 1 min

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Dr. Jameca Cooper explains why "just say no" doesn't work: many people see refusal as a personal flaw. Instead, try "I need to check my priorities first." It buys time, eases guilt, and helps her therapy clients actually set boundaries.

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The boundary advice that people have given you thus far has just not been working for you, and you know why? It's because you're already wired to believe that saying no means you're bad. Try this instead. The next time someone asks you for something, give it a moment, think about it, and say, "You know what? I need to check my priorities first." Buys you time and relieves the guilt at the same time. My therapy clients use this a lot, and it really saves them from the stress associated with Having firm boundaries and saying no. In my course, the Boundary Engineering and the Boundary Blueprint will definitely help you establish better boundaries. Comment boundaries if you'd like more information.