Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About That One Thing

Do not picture your front door. You thought of your front door, right? That color, handle, everything. Now understand what that means, because it explains every failure you have had with your own mind. To not to think about something, but your brain first has to find it. It cannot check whether you are avoiding a thought without pulling that thought up. So every time you tell yourself, stop worrying about money, you will worry more. The instruction is impossible. This has been tested for decades. Tell people not to think of something, they think of it more, not less. And they think of it more afterwards than people who had never told. So then how to fix this? So stop trying to remove a thought. Replace it instead. Not with a nicer thought, with a physical action. When money thought comes, you don't fight with with it. Instead, stand up, keep your hands on your heart, take a deep breath, and give that mind a place to go. What do you exactly want? Think of that number, because it will not simply stop, but still the ask is very important. Try this once today. Tell yourself not to think about something. See how fast it comes up. Then come back and tell me what it is.