Dr. John A. King breaks down three ways to know if someone will give you honest advice when it matters: their integrity, how well you know them, and whether they've actually put your interests first before. The third one matters most. Few people do it consistently.
Hey, how you doing? In Deal With It, I talk about developing a brains trust, a group of people that you can rely on to give you input and guidance, particularly in difficult times. Gathering that group of people is an intentional thing and is often a difficult thing because it's very hard to assess someone's intent towards you. So I've just written down 3 things that you could use as a measure to Assess whether or not someone is going to give you advice that is actually good for you. Number 1 is, is this person a good and honourable person? Are they a person of integrity in all areas of their life? Number 2 is, how well do you know that person? And number 3, do they have a history of keeping your best interests in mind? Now, that last point I found is the most important. Because there are very few people in life who, regardless of what you're going through, actually want the best for you.
