Dr. John A. King argues that dwelling in victimhood limits people coping with PTSD. His rule: give yourself three minutes a day to feel sorry for yourself, then move on. The rest of the day is for living.
Have you ever met those people where they're always a victim? They always have the worst checkout chick. They always have the someone steals their car park. They always get the red lights. They're the sort of person that have a continuous victim narrative. A hotspot for the victim narrative is Pinterest. Everyone's sitting around on the boards pinning about all these things and life is blah blah blah and so it goes on. You can't afford, and I talk about this and deal with it extensively, you cannot afford to give yourself Room for a victim narrative in your own life. Look, we've all been through things. We've all suffered things. We've all been faced with things, and we've all made decisions to move forward. And some days get tough. So here's a very simple rule for you: You're allowed three minutes a day. That's it. Three minutes a day to feel sorry for yourself. Sit down, have a cup of coffee, enjoy those three minutes. If you make it five, if you want, soak it in. But when it's over, it's over. I don't like the word victim. It's limiting. Be more than a victim.
