Dr. John A. King warns Christians not to enable manipulators by saying yes to every request. He points to Jesus refusing to judge a family inheritance dispute in Luke 12, showing that Jesus wouldn't take on roles outside His mission. Set boundaries and recognize when guilt is being used to make you someone else's fix.
The way lying lips often manifest is through manipulation, and that's what we would call a manipulator. A manipulation is not just how they are, it's a state of emotional neediness, and it's a sin. And the mistake I feel that most Christians make is thinking that loving someone means saying yes to everything, that we're obligated to fix people's problems. But Jesus didn't do that. Remember with the rich young ruler? He's got someone that— let's miss that one. Let's look at this one out of Luke 12. Someone in the crowd says, Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me. But Jesus said to him, Man, who am I to be made a judge or an arbitrator between you? In other words, I've got nothing to do with this, so don't drag me into it. And often a manipulator will do that. They'll just drag you and pull you into a situation. And Jesus refused to get involved. He did not allow people to place him in roles that were not him. Listen, I'm not your judge. That's someone else's responsibility. I'm not, I'm not called to do that. If someone only remembers you when they need something, if they back you into a corner with guilt and you're a real Christian,
