In this single‑speaker YouTube review, K9 Officer Tim Frazier draws on his years as a police officer to discuss John King’s memoir Deal With It. Frazier explains how, as a cop, he often encountered child abuse cases and felt compelled to protect victims, yet he never truly understood the long‑term impact until meeting King, a survivor who turned his trauma into a self‑crafted toolkit for daily battle with his demons. Frazier praises the book’s raw, brutal honesty, describing it as both a personal revelation and a powerful resource for anyone living with past or present trauma, even though he does not have PTSD himself. He admires King’s resilience, likening him to a brother, mentor, and equal, while also feeling anger on behalf of abused children. Frazier urges all adults—whether they have PTSD or not—to read the memoir, emphasizing that wider readership will illuminate hidden suffering, reduce stigma, and help other survivors find the help they might otherwise have to create on their own.
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From my years as a cop, I knew this sort of thing happened to children. I had to be professional and not jeopardize cases, bury my fury and desire to take up offenses of the innocent, and refrain from personally taking vengeance on their behalf. But until I met John King, I'd never seen what those children were like decades later. And he's only one of them. He managed to create his own help when he found no one had created it for men like him. He sought out the tools, weapons, and exercises to do daily battle with the demons that will wage war on him for the rest of his life. And then a man who was forced against his will as a child to bare his body decided to bare his soul of his own free will to help others in similar circumstances. The least those of us who weren't traumatized by those who are responsible for our well-being can do is be enraged On behalf of those who were betrayed. I don't pity John King. I just get pissed off on his behalf when I see these tiny glimpses into the past he endured. And I admire him. I count him in many ways as my equal, some ways my superior and mentor, and in a few ways as my bumbling, occasionally lost friend who keeps getting up one more time than he's knocked down. Most of all, I view him as my brother who appears not to realize he has the strength and resilience of granite. I read his book Deal With It, and though I don't have PTSD, I felt damn near like the book was giving me a case of it. It was that raw and brutal in places, compounded by my personally knowing the man who was that child in the book. It's an incredible help and blessing to those who are living with past or present trauma. And it's a fascinating, horrifying, redeeming roller coaster of revulsion, humor, tears, and joy for anyone else brave enough to read it. I would encourage anybody out there who has a grown-up brain to read this book, whether you have PTSD, whether you know somebody who has PTSD or not. It's One of those things that'll reveal things that go on in this world that most people refuse to believe, refuse to expose themselves to, but that really need to have a light shone on them. The more this book is read and talked about, the more people in similar circumstances will be able to find help. Rather than being lost and having to search it out for themselves as John had to.
