Dr. John A. King uses a wheat harvester metaphor to explain why cutting out fake people matters. The solid wheat stays, the chaff blows away. When accusatory people leave your life, that's the machine working right, clearing space for genuine friendships that help you live well with PTSD.
When I was— my first degree is in agriculture, and when I was working in the bush, I'd drive these big wheat harvesters or headers through the paddocks, and they'd get the wheat, they'd throw it into a big drum, the drum would turn around, and the solid material would fall to the bottom, and the chaff and the excess would be blown away in the wind. You're going to have relationships like that. You're going to have people who are Fake who are going to accuse you, who are going to tell you that you're making stuff up, that you're full of it. For whatever reason, I don't know. We'll never know that. And we can either get despondent about that or we can get grateful for it. I've come to learn that it's actually a good thing. I'd rather the rubbish, the dross, and the chaff of relationships be blown out of my life and be left with the good solid friendships. That lasts forever than live with phakus.
