Dr. John A. King talks about how people with PTSD can communicate better in relationships. He argues for vulnerability and sharing past stories and feelings of dysregulation with a partner, and developing a common language together to prevent meltdowns and strengthen the relationship.
One of the keys that I had to learn very early on was that if I was going to have a great relationship with my wife, I had to learn to communicate about some things that were very difficult. I had to share stories from my past. I had to share stories about how I was feeling deregulated by these things. And, and I suppose you don't want to do that. You're being vulnerable, you're opening yourself up, and you're having to relive These things that you really just want to put behind you. But that's not a fair thing to do. You can't expect someone who's close to you and loves you to understand what you're going through if you don't communicate about it. You have to learn to develop a common language that you can find a way to share those things in a positive and a proactive way so to ensure that there's not the meltdown that often happens. Now, it's difficult, but it's a price worth paying.
