Dr. John A. King suggests people with PTSD or mental health challenges pick one holiday priority—time with kids, a family event, a friend—and let everything else be imperfect. Dropping the all-or-nothing mindset cuts burnout and makes the season actually enjoyable.
Hi, I said I'd try and post every day a thought on, on how to, you know, cope better or deal better or manage better this whole holiday period. And I had, I had a thought this morning that in a lot of areas of our life, we are good at one thing and we take pride at being good at one thing. And that's our specialty and that's our focus. But sometimes when we have post-traumatic stress disorder, CPTSD or a range of other mental illnesses, we feel we've got to be good at everything to appease everybody. And ultimately, we end up failing at a lot of it. So my suggestion, another suggestion for you, is to pick one thing and be really good at it this season. If it's being with your kids, be with them. If it's having a family event, a day, be with them. If it's a big family thing, be with that. If it's hanging out with a bunch of mates, be with that. Be really good at that one event and give yourself room and grace to just coast on the others.
