Dr. John A. King argues that men are culturally pressured to hide sexual abuse and trauma, told to "hold their shit together." This silence harms not just men but their wives and children, as unprocessed trauma damages relationships. He calls for safe spaces where men can talk about pain without losing their masculinity.
You understand, man, if you're sitting around a dinner table, you can talk about the horrendous thing that is sexual abuse and trafficking of women, but you can't talk about it as a man. No one wants to hear your shit. They don't want to talk about it. We're supposed to hold our shit together. And there's a whole bunch of men out there, millions and millions of men, that have no voice and no place. And the problem is that, is as they bottle that up, they're hurting their wives and their kids. And so we've got to be able to have this conversation and not feel like you're cashing in your man card.
