Dr. Tabatha Barber explains self-love as an active relationship with yourself, like having a spouse. It requires showing up and meeting your own needs rather than giving up. Pleasure and feeling good can be cultivated through acceptance, slowing down, and being present with yourself.
It's like having a spouse. You don't always like your spouse. Like you might be not getting along but you still love them and you still are going to show up and meet their needs and do that as a loving partner because you love them and you'll figure out the like stuff because there's some stuff to work through. But that doesn't mean you're like I give up. You know, we're not going to the gym anymore. We're not eating right anymore. Like I give up. Big difference.
It's a very big difference. And that's where we have to realize that we're in relationship with ourselves. We're in an intimate relationship with ourselves and our pleasure matters. Us feeling good matters. We have the control, I'll use that word. We have the control to create as much joy and pleasure as we allow through acceptance, through slowing down, through allowing right and through being with ourselves.
