YouTube video by Dr. Tabatha Barber arguing that true self-care centers on inner work: quieting the mind, rest, self-reflection, and spiritual reconnection (e.g., ‘reconnecting with God’) rather than solely external pampering (manicures, pedicures, massages). The speaker emphasizes being a friend to oneself, asking why one behaves a certain way, and taking time to get still to avoid staying "stuck in the mud."
It's you avoiding what you're supposed to be doing. That inner work, that resting, that getting still, that calmness and, like, reconnecting with God and being like, what is happening right now? So we have to have the time, put that in. That, to me, is what self care looks like. You know, like the Mannies and the pedis and the massage, those are great. But if you're not sitting still with your mind and actually saying, how are you? What's going on? Why are you acting this way? What's up? And being that friend, like, if you're not being a friend to yourself, you're really not going to get anywhere. You're going to stay stuck in the mud.
