A brief YouTube short by Dr. Tabatha Barber explaining how trauma plus confirmation bias can create locked-in "stay stuck" narratives (for example: “people can’t be trusted,” “I’m not safe,” “something’s wrong with me”) that shut the mind down to new information. The clip frames these recurring beliefs as self-reinforcing patterns that keep people emotionally "stuck."
The belief becomes so true over time that it's like a switch theory that when my brain says I've got the truth then it's not open to anything else. So when something new like no thank you, I don't need you, I've got the truth right now. And so with confirmation bias and trauma, the pattern of thought, the construct that we develop are things like people can't be trusted. I'm not safe. Something must be wrong with me, especially for someone who loved me, somebody who was a mentor, somebody who was a family member to do this to me. If I relax and let my guard down I know something bad again is going to happen. So when I'm not safe, people can't be trusted. Something's wrong with me. If I relax and let my guard down, something bad will happen. Those are what I call the stay stuck narratives that hold us in bondage.
