Facebook memories and social media reminders distort the past by showing only the good parts, triggering regret about previous relationships and missed moments. Breaking free means taking small, imperfect steps forward instead of dwelling on what was.
The whole time you were talking, I was thinking about Lot's wife and like, you literally just can't look back. And I feel like God's been working in me a little bit with this too, because we can get really caught up in our past, especially with like Facebook memories. Like you can look at those every day and you can see past things and you remember things in a different way than you probably felt when you were going through it. And so you look at those memories and you think all these wonderful thoughts, but really you were probably going through hell then too. You just kind of block that out. And so I've actually stopped looking at my Facebook memories over the last 3 or 4 months because it can be painful, to be straight up honest. And like you said, when your body goes through changes, you have to change what you're doing. And so we do, we have to take just small, simple steps. And some people just try to change everything all at once, and that's where the failure happens. I think you just need to focus on one thing today, take that step and then just keep going. Like you said, get into messy action, but you absolutely have to stop looking back. Okay.
You just, um, explained why I've been struggling for the past few weeks with my son graduating high school. Those darn Facebook memories. Yeah. All the pictures of him as a child were, are, they're popping up, but then we had to go through them to get ready for his party. Absolutely.
And then there are times when you have to do that, right?
And so that brings up memories of being married to his dad and my previous life. Yeah. And all the stuff and looking back. And you're right, you don't remember it in the same way. Yeah. You really just look at the joyful moments. You're obviously not posting the crappy moments on Facebook.
Let's be real. And so like you're, you're looking and you're probably not taking pictures of crappy moments. So when you're looking at those photos, all you're seeing is the joy and you pro— like it just isn't really there. It warps your mind. Yeah, it does. And it makes you feel like, oh gosh, maybe I shouldn't have done XYZ, but you did and you've moved on and you gotta stop looking back. But it's, it's really hard.
