#142: How to Achieve Self-Ownership

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At this altitude I can run flat out for a half mile before my hands start shaking. Can I answer your personal question now?

What is the inappropriate time?

What if I did the Alpha? I'm a cybernetic organism, Living tissue over a metal endoskeleton. Ferrous soul. Hello boys and girls, this is Tim Ferriss and welcome to another episode of the Tim Ferriss Show. This is an in between episode of sorts. It is not a long form interview, but rather it is an excerpt. It is one of my favorite letters from seneca, a mere 2,000 or so years old, and it explores a number of different practical philosophies that I encourage you to digest. Now, the first few paragraphs might seem a little off the reservation, but then we get quickly to what you could call the fight club philosophy. Meaning of course, the bar conversation. The things you owned end up owning you. Let me try that again. The things you own end up owning you. I need more caffeine. The exploration thereof I think is extremely valuable. If you want more of these letters, you can check them out in the Tao of Seneca. It is a compilation that I put together and you can find those volumes@audible.com timsbooks that's audible.com timsbooks where you can find my book club which includes I think seven or eight other Books that have had a huge impact on my life. So, without further ado, Please enjoy. Letter 42 on values by Seneca the younger.

Letter 42 on values. Has that friend of yours already made you believe that he is a good man? And yet it is impossible in so short a time to. For one either to become good or be known as such? Do you know what kind of man I now mean when I speak of a good man? I mean one of the second grade, like your friend, for one of the first class, perhaps springs into existence like the phoenix only once in 500 years. And it is not surprising either that greatness develops only at long intervals. Fortune often brings into being commonplace powers which are born to please the mob. But she holds up for our approval that which is extraordinary by the very fact that she makes it rare. This man, however, of whom you spoke is still far from the state which he professes to have reached. And if he knew what it meant to be a good man, he would not yet believe himself such. Perhaps he would even despair of his ability to become good. But you say he thinks ill of evil men. Well, so do evil men themselves. And there is no worse penalty for vice than the fact that it is dissatisfied with itself and all its fellows. But he hates those who make an ungoverned use of great power suddenly acquired. I retort that he will do the same thing as soon as he acquires the same powers. In the case of many men, their vices, being powerless, escape notice. Although as soon as the persons in question have become satisfied with their own strength, the vices will be no less daring than those which prosperity has already disclosed. These men simply lack the means whereby they may unfold their wickedness. Similarly, one can handle even a poisonous snake while it is stiff with cold. The poison is not lacking. It is merely numbed into inaction. In the case of many men, their cruelty, ambition and indulgence only lack the favour of fortune. To make them dare crimes that would match the worst, that their wishes are the same, you will in a moment discover in this, give them the power equal to their wishes. Do you remember how when you declared that a certain person was under your influence, I pronounced him fickle and a bird of passage and said that you held him not by the foot, but merely by a wing. Was I mistaken? You grasped him only by a feather. He left it in your hands and escaped. You know what an exhibition he afterwards made of himself before you, how many of the things he attempted were to recoil upon his own head. He did not see that in endangering others, he was tottering to his own downfall. He did not reflect how burdensome were the objects which he was bent upon attaining, even if they were not superfluous. Therefore, with regard to the objects which we pursue and for which we strive with great effort, we should note this. Either there is nothing desirable in them, or the undesirable is preponderant. Some objects are superfluous, others are not worth the price we pay for them. But we do not see this clearly, and we regard things as free gifts when they really cost us very dear. Our stupidity may be clearly proved by the fact that that we hold that buying refers only to the objects for which we pay cash and we regard as free gifts the things for which we spend our very selves. These we should refuse to buy if we were compelled to give in payment for them our houses or some attractive and profitable estate. But we are eager to attain them at the cost of anxiety, of danger, and of lost honour, personal freedom and time. So true it is that each man regards nothing as cheaper than himself. Let us therefore act in all our plans and conduct, just as we are accustomed to act whenever we approach a huckster who has certain wares for sale. Let us see how much we must pay for that which we crave. Very often the things that cost nothing are cost us the most heavily. I can show you many objects, the quest and acquisition of which have wrested freedom from our hands. We should belong to ourselves. If only these things did not belong to us. I would therefore have you reflect thus not only when it is a question of gain, but also when it is a question of loss. This object is bound to perish. Yes, it was a mere extra. You will live without it just as easily as you have lived before. If you have possessed it for a long time, you lose it after you have had your fill of it. If you have not possessed it long, then you lose it before you have become wedded to it. You will have less money, yes, and less trouble, less influence. Yes, and less envy. Look about you and note the things that drive us mad which we lose with a flood of tears. You will perceive that it is not the loss that troubles us with reference to these things, but a notion of loss. No one feels that they have been lost, but his mind tells him that it has been so. He that owns himself has lost nothing. But how few men are blessed with ownership of self. Farewell.

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