Weekly Q&F: August 24, 2023

Hello and welcome to the weekly Curiosity.

Chronicle Question and Framework.

In three minutes or less, I will give you one question and one framework.

To leave you thinking heading into the weekend. Without further ado, let's dive right in.

A Question on Avoidance what am I.

Avoiding because it's too painful to address? Humans have a pre wired pain avoidance mechanism.

If we subconsciously know that something is likely to cause us pain, we will.

Go to extreme lengths to avoid it. Unfortunately, in some cases, avoiding pain now isn't helpful. Pain isn't always something that dissipates on.

Its own with the benefit of time.

In fact, sometimes it's more like pressure.

Building up behind a faulty dam.

The more it is avoided, the more.

Likely it becomes that it will burst.

Through or around and create more damage than ever anticipated. What are you avoiding because it feels too painful to address?

What tough conversation are you delaying?

What emotion are you bottling up?

What struggle are you burying?

What new positive habit are you indefinitely suspending?

Create an awareness.

Confront the things you are avoiding.

Remember quote we suffer more in imagination than in reality.

Seneca Ask yourself whether the pain is.

Really going to be as bad as.

You think, or whether you're better off dealing with it now and benefiting later. Easy now, hard later.

Hard now, easy later.

The choice is yours. A Framework on Avoiding Judgment Fundamental Attribution Error Fundamental attribution error is a cognitive bias whereby humans tend to hold others to the fire while giving ourselves a break. It says that one attribute the flawed actions of others to their character and not to their situation or context, and 2 attribute our own flawed actions to situation and context and not to our character. From an evolutionary perspective, quickly attributing negative actions to character may have kept you.

Alive, as you'd be more likely to.

Avoid that individual in future.

But in a modern context, being prone.

To this bias can create real problems. It is easy to form perspectives on the character of family members, colleagues, or strangers based on small tidbits of information. It's dangerous to use very limited information to create an overall picture of an individual. You've seen one tiny square of a map and believe you know the map in its entirety. To combat the bias, start with awareness. Keep it in mind as you build.

A rapport with new people.

Force yourself to slow down and rationally confront the potential circumstances or situational factors that may be influencing an individual's actions or behaviors. You won't always have the time to do so. Heuristics can be helpful, but with more lasting relationships friends, partners, colleagues, etc.

It's worth the extra effort.

You'll build deeper, more trusting relationships and.

Naturally become a more compassionate person.

That's all for today.

I hope you enjoyed it.

I hope you learned something, and I.

Hope it got you thinking.

As always, until next time, stay curious, friends.