Ep.19 Decoding Soul Contracts in Relationships: Love, Career, and Family

Welcome, everyone, to episode 19 of our podcast. And I wanted to start talking about this week's energy by answering actually a few questions that we have had about relationships and soul contracts and why certain people come into our lives and why we go through the experiences we go through. So the question that I'm often asked is, how is it that when we meet someone, they are a certain way in the beginning? So maybe the first few dates are very positive, the first few months are very positive, maybe six months and sometimes even a few years, and then something changes, something turns, something. The person isn't the same person we thought they were. So I'm sure everyone listening can kind of go back in time and think of relationships that didn't just always follow the pattern and trajectory that we were used to or that we expected. We had one type of expectation of love. We anticipated one type of care, and maybe we were fed that energy, we were given that energy, and then something switched. So the question is, what's happening on a spiritual level? Because if we don't understand and look at things from the perspective of the Creator, then we will always look at things from the perspective of our own tikkun, of our own soul's correction. And so the answers we will get will only be to satisfy and feed the spiritual parasites inside of us. So, for example, if a person came to this world with a fear of abandonment, then we know that part of the correction of the fear of abandonment is to experience some form of loss. So that experience will happen on a miniature level, on a micro level, or on a macro level, on a much bigger level of loss. But you will have to feel it. You will have to feel loss in order to go through the darkness, go through the pain, make a decision that the light of the Creator is still there, have complete certainty, or at least attempt to have certainty that this is for the good, and this is now you activating your God gene, the literal reason why you came to this world, the only reason you came to this world, you have fulfilled your soul's correction. When this God gene is activated, your vessel now expands, the light of the Creator comes in, and we shift to a new destiny where there are miracles and there are wonders, and there are all the fulfilling things, even things that we cannot anticipate that we've ever wanted begin to come into our life. So if you have this correction of fear of abandonment, you will have to experience this fear, have to, at some point, experience some form of loss. If we do not look at it in the way that we're about to explain if we do not approach relationships, or the loss of relationships, or the disappointment in relationships, or the rejection and relationships, or the deception that we think we went through in relationships, if we do not perceive it in the way that I'm about to share, according to the sages, we are merely reacting to the pain and feeding that soul correction as opposed to transforming it. We are empowering it. We will be empowering our fear. We will actually be thickening the curtain between our soul and our body. And then we will be confused. We will see everything in a distorted way. We will keep choosing the wrong people or quote, unquote wrong people in our lives. We will be attracted to something toxic and we will feel repulsed by something healthy. Have you ever thought or wondered why that is? You know the example I probably shared before of someone who's dating and she's very clear about how she wants to be in a long term relationship. However, as she dates very good suitors and individuals, what many might consider healthy or established ones that care about her, and I asked the question what was wrong with that one? And what was wrong with that one? And often the answer would come, it's too perfect, it's too good, it's boring. Why is it boring? Because it's healthy in her eyes. Which means that there's something about the soul's signal is not getting through. Because when the soul gets through the body, when that thick curtain is no longer there and the soul can communicate to the body, the body's desire will be aligned with the soul's desire. So you will be desiring something that is healthy for you as opposed to being attracted to something that is unhealthy for you. It's very much like health itself. If my body has toxicity in it, if I'm used to eating unhealthy, then when my body sees or when I see food that is not good for me, I will crave it. If I'm used to having sugar, when I see sugar, I will crave it. If my body is used to caffeine, when I see caffeine, I'll crave it. If I am a smoker and I'm addicted to smoking, when I see a cigarette, or even if I have an imagination of a cigarette or anything at all, I will crave it. Now the body is craving something, the soul knows and you even know, maybe this isn't the best thing for me, but why do I crave it so much? We would love for our body to also be aligned with our soul. We would love for Our would love to sit at a restaurant. And ultimately, this is what happens when we do the spiritual work. Your body is not ordering from the menu. Your soul is. So your body may say, I want meat, but the soul will say, actually, we should choose fish. Why? Because the soul also sees. And we've discussed this in deeper classes, I believe Kabbalah 2 and 3, we go into it that every animal and every plant and every mineral that comes to this world, and especially the ones that appear at a dinner table, has a soul in it and a spark of light that are unique to what we need in our spiritual journey. So that fish or that meat or that salad isn't there just by chance. And it's not just food, it's actually light. So the Creator arranges sparks of light in different foods that we elevate when we chew this food with the right intention and the right consciousness. And we're connecting to the essence, the energy that's in food, the spiritual energy, as opposed to the physical. Now, if you aren't thinking this when you're eating, you're not making as strong of a connection. And oftentimes you could eat the wrong foods and connect to souls that have actually been trapped in different animals that will cause a person's consciousness to actually be changed. So this is true, and we know this. Actually, thousands of years ago, tribes would eat raw, raw organs or raw hearts before they would go into battle and war because it gave them a certain animalistic desire and power, because this is the energy that is being transferred. Kabbalah also explains deeper, and I don't think this is the time for it in this podcast because we want to focus on relationships, but it is fascinating. Kabbalah does also explain that eating from the animal kingdom creates a certain energy inside of us. It's not good or bad, but it's a certain energy. Plant kingdom creates a different energy, and mineral creates a different one. And so every soul is attracted to a different style of eating. Some people are vegan, and they're emphatic about it. Some people only eat protein. Some people are vegetarian. And whatever you are called to do often is the soul's request of what it needs in order to elevate certain sparks of light, which is really fascinating. This is why we cannot judge someone who is vegan or not vegan. This is why we cannot judge someone who has a certain diet that we might disagree with. The reason why they desire it or crave it is because there is a connection that their soul needs to the light that is in that type of food. And of course, we go through seasons. Sometimes we crave to be a certain way with a certain diet. And then it transforms as well. So going back to relationships, the reason why things change, and they inevitably will, is because the person you are dating, the person you're in a relationship with, at some point they also have to go through their soul correction. So maybe they were able to show up for you and give to you in a way that you really felt understood, that you felt seen and heard. But at some point along their journey, in order for them to go through their soul correction, their stability was taken away. Maybe they're going through a difficult financial situation. Maybe they're going through a health condition. Maybe all of a sudden, the Creator chose at that moment in time to awaken a fear in them, an anxiety in them that maybe they did not have to deal with in the first six months. And now they are going through their spiritual process. But what happens when people are going through their darkness, through their dark night of the soul, through their next level? We begin to take it personally. And we don't fully understand these changes that are happening. We think there's. We are interacting with someone maybe who is selfish or who doesn't have empathy for us or who just changed. All of a sudden. We begin to label people. We begin to call them avoidant. We begin to. We begin to call them narcissistic. We begin to call them clingy or unhealed. And the danger of that is we are not approaching this from why the Creator is putting us all through this process. There's also a process you're going through because two people will never meet unless their tikkuns or soul corrections are completely aligned energetically. So the Creator arranged that this person, this man or woman would go through their soul correction because of fears that are awakened in them at the same time that you need to go through yours. You will never go through something. No one can hurt you, touch you, or harm you unless there was permission given from the upper worlds for you to go through your process. It's a very powerful and important concept. Nobody could hurt you unless there was a destiny to go through a certain process when we can see things beyond. Hey, you did this to me. Hey, you are this and that. The Creator then gives us divine wisdom how to navigate the scenario and never repeat it again. Something we should never say is, that relationship was terrible. That person was terrible. That person was a waste of my time. That person took two years of my life. That person, I wish I had Never met them. Every time we have this narrative or this vibration, replace the word that person with the Creator. The Creator wasted my time. The Creator was toxic. I wish I never met the Creator. I hope the Creator suffers and is never happy. I hope the Creator suffers the way I suffered. I'm going to block the Creator. I'm going to now go on a mission to tell everyone how bad the Creator is. This is actually an example we do in Kabbalah 1 we ask people to write down who is the person that has hurt you, who is the person that has betrayed you or deceived you. And then you have to change and what did they do to you and how did you feel? And you have to change the name of the person with the Creator. In the last 20 years that I've taught Kabbalahuan and I've done this example, the laughter in the room, because it's absolutely absurd. You, you're supercharged about this person who you literally think wasted your time, stole your innocence, made you jaded, awakened all this trauma inside or created all this trauma. But in reality, it was the Creator the whole time. And now we are angry with the Creator. People don't even really exist. Nobody exists. Everything is an illusion. All there is is you and the light of the Creator. So when in the great writings of the sages, the verse is, there is nothing besides you and the light of the Creator. And when you believe that and know that the darkness disappears, the lessons become learned, the Creator begins to speak to you, your soul begins to shine, overpowering your body. And now your desires of the body are aligned with the desires of your soul. And this is called entering the realm of miracles. It says that King David would wake up in the morning and his body would just move towards miracles. He didn't even have to think or choose. Often people say, I don't know what decision to make. When you don't know what decision to make, my teachers have taught me it is because you still have not connected body and soul, because the soul will immediately see the future, because the future exists in the moment anyways. There is no time and the body will know. So when the body doesn't know, it's because the body's not connected. So instead of trying to figure out what do I do? You must find ways to close the space between the body and the soul. And the space is created by our negativity, not the negativity of somebody else who doesn't even really exist. Your girlfriend does not exist, your spouse does not exist, your children do not exist. The person who is taking credit for the work you're doing in your company does not exist. The employees who are not giving you what you want, the type of work you want, who are not aligned energetically with you, they do not exist. Your parents don't exist. That one family member that you think has mental illness that is causing all these problems in this drama, she does not exist. He does not exist. Now, do they exist in the physical world? They do. And if you want to live in the physical world, what we call the 1% reality, the tree of Knowledge, good and evil, the realm of chaos and illusion, that's a choice. In that world, I agree. Every man for himself. There is no control. You could be the smartest, the wisest and the richest, and you will suffer. In the realm of the Tree of Life, what we call the 99%, the realm of the light of the Creator, there's a different set of rules. And if you want to exist in that realm, access to this realm is. They will ask you at the door, what do you believe? Do you believe ein od milvodot? Do you. Do you believe there's nothing besides you and the light of the Creator? If the answer is yes, you're granted access. If you say, yeah, I believe there's nothing but the light of the Creator and this guy who hurt me and this relationship, that was a waste of time. They don't let you in. They send you back to the physical realm of chaos. The whole point of the chaos of this physical world is that it will be so exhausting and painful that. That we will all start to ask questions, who is the Creator? There must be something more than this. Every wealthy person I know at some point in their life has said, or they will say, what is the point of all this? I got this. I got that. I got the home, I got the car, I got the other home. I have money. I fly wherever I want. I do whatever I want. I eat whatever I want. I sleep with whoever I want. And I feel unhappy. There must be more than this. Often the negative side does not want them, obviously, to know that there's a realm called the Realm of Miracles, the realm of the light of the Creator. So the negative side comes up with a backup plan and says, let's be charitable. Let's start a charity. Let's do something very noble and help people. But please, whatever you do, do not connect your soul to the light of the Creator. This is an interesting one. What's so bad about being charitable? By the way, the negative Side could also say, go teach Kabbalah. Go start teaching spirituality. Go be a teacher. Why? Because teaching Kabbalah does not connect me to the light of the Creator. In fact, if anything, truth be told, it will create more difficulties for me to connect with the light of the Creator. All it could possibly do for any teacher in this world is create an ego, create the need for validation, create a host of other problems which actually thicken the layers between the body and the soul. The only thing that connects us to the light of the Creator is when we go through our personal transformation and we know that there's nothing besides us and the light of the Creator in every painful situation. This is the only thing that connects us. If you wrote 100 books on spirituality and you changed 100 million lives, they do not care about this in the upper world. Well, is that important? It is because that puts you on a vibration that connects you to an energy that gives you the strength, the merit and the guidance to do your correction. But it is not the correction itself. We did not come to this world to write books. Nobody cares. The Creator could write all the books. The Creator can enlighten everybody. The Creator doesn't need us to enlighten anyone. We only came with the free will to choose to become godly ourself. The only reason being a teacher or being charitable could be a soul. Correction is if in that moment of a selfish endeavor in life, you choose to have an altruistic one. That moment of transformation is a revelation of light. But after that, the only thing that's going to reveal light is in your pursuit of helping others. You will be tested and you must transform yourself in those tests. It's not the help itself that is revealing the energy, the new energy that our soul came to receive. In summary, this is the phrase. This is the mantra. There is nothing besides me in the light of the Creator. I release blame from everyone in my life. And I will no longer label people because it serves my negativity. I will no longer. I will no longer label people as a waste of time, as negative, as someone who betrayed me or deceived me. These are all relationships that the Creator gave me for me to become my perfected self. I will honor them because I want to honor the Creator. I will appreciate them. I will love them for the mission they did, even though it was painful. And as a result, that will never have to not only repeat those relationships, but it says that all darkness becomes light, all the sins become merits, and everything that was once negative actually goes to the positive. Side and becomes light.