Stop chasing unavailable people. The excitement fades and you'll face the same conflicts you're running from. The attraction usually means you want freedom or escape, not that person. Fix what's broken in yourself first.
If a person desires, let's say, someone else's husband or wife, right? The minute you get this person, the mystery is gone. If you married this person instead of the person you're married to now, you're gonna have the same fights, the same issues. Eventually, after the honeymoon period is over, you know, the same problems with this man that you do with your current husband or whoever you're with. It's not this man that you want. There are things that this represents, which is maybe some level of freedom, some level of excitement. This energy of love, romance, whatever it is that you see in this potential forbidden partnership, if you go and take it, meaning you start flirting with this unavailable man. You are stealing this energy without having earned it. What the sages say is, know that you are destined to have all that you think you will get from this man, but now go inwards and work on yourself. What are all the fears you have? What are the issues you're having with your current partner that you're not dealing with? Instead, you're just calling him a narcissist.
