Short advice transcript outlining five relationship tests to consider before committing: assess partner’s behavior under stress, response to your success, capacity to hold vulnerability, conduct with family, and comfort in shared silence. Emphasizes character revealed in low moments and mutual emotional support.
Before a couple moves in together, or before they get engaged, or even before they say I love you, I would do these five things. Test number one. See when their ego is triggered. Not when they're calm, but when they are stressed. Because stress reveals someone's true character. Test number two. Watch how they handle your success. When opportunities come to you, when recognition comes to you, do they celebrate you or do they have jealousy? Is the third test. Be vulnerable about your wounds. Tell them about your trauma and your insecurities. Can they hold space for that without trying to fix you, judge you or make it about them? Here's the fourth test. See them with their family and how they behave. Because how they show up with their family is how they will eventually show up with your family. And here's the fifth test. Spend time in silence together without any distraction. Just the two of you. Stillness and space. Do you feel peace when you're with them? Or do you feel the need to fill that space? Observe these tests. Love isn't just about the highs. When everything's going well, it's about whether your souls can hold each other through the lows.
