Your Character Is More Important Than The Outcome
Elay Amitay Halevi argues that who you become matters more than what you achieve. He stopped chasing results and instead wrote down the behaviors and energy of his desired self, then recommitted through doubt and anxiety. He reports a two-month shift that rewired his beliefs and changed his reality.
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Hi friends, welcome back to the channel. So today I wanted to remind you all of something really important. I was looking through my journal over the last year and I noticed at what point things really started to shift for me in my reality. I noticed what I was saying, I noticed the change in my speech, I noticed the change in my attitude. And what changed was I decided that the outcome no longer mattered. And this is something a lot of manifestation teachers and gurus and stuff preach. And there's a reason for that. Because there is no way that you can manifest something by being in chasing energy, consciousness constantly. It is impossible, not possible. By the way, I'm not French, I'm also not American. I'm Irish. For those of you who have been asking, 100% Irish, let's just get that out of the way. Anyway, the moment I wrote down, I'm going to show up as X, Y, Z. Because that is my character and that is who I want to be and how I want to be energetically in this world. Regardless of if worst case scenario happens, regardless of if best case scenario happens, it's enough for me to just be that energy and that is it. And when I wrote that down, when I started executing on that, that's when everything really started to move and shift for me in my life. Now I will say this with a huge, huge, huge warning. As you go down this path and as you say to yourself, I am this new version of me and you start acting as a new version of yourself, your old self is going to come up and try to find you. Your old reality is going to come up and try to fight you. Because when you are presenting a new frequency to the world, the old frequency is going to fight back. And it's your job to remain strong in the new frequency. How do you do that? You just recommit to it. So even if you fall off, even if you self sabotage, even if you revert to old behaviors, you just commit to the new frequency. When you make it less important to you what the outcome is, that is when the outcome becomes much more of an energetic match for you and it becomes much more accessible to you. But the frequency of desperation, of wanting, of putting excess importance on something, it repels it, it pushes it away from you. And I noticed this in my diary. I wanted this thing, I wanted that thing, I wanted this shift. I wanted to be different. I really wanted everything to be different. And I was thinking a lot like why I keep changing my actions, I keep changing what I'm doing. And I really, I read Something. And it reminded me, like, everything in your life right now is a byproduct of your mental attitude, your mental state. And as I got that really into my head, I thought, well, how can I change my mental state? Like, what can I control? And this is something you should always be asking yourself, what can you control? Take control of that and let go of everything else. Let go of everything else. And it's always going to be the outcomes that you let go of, you will find. And this is how you really start to take your power back. And this is how you really start to shift things. You focus all your energy on the process, on how you're showing up energetically, and you completely detach from the outcome that you desire. When you embody the energy of whatever it is you want in whatever way you can, you don't want it anymore. You are just being it. And that's how it starts to come towards you. So this turning point for me that I could see, like, I had written it down in here, thank God I tracked this. If you don't have a journal, by the way, you need to. You need to get on journaling. I was writing. I want, I want. I'm sad. I'm sad. My life is this. My life is that. I'm frustrated with this, like, literally in there, trying to. I had 99 problems and I had zero solutions. And I was trying to write out solutions. I was trying to use my brain. I was like, come on, I'm smart enough to think my way out of this. Well, the problem was not physical. It wasn't on the physical plane. It was on the mental plane. It was. My frequency was the problem. How I was showing up mentally every day was the problem. And you will find this in your life as well. So as soon as I changed my attitude, like, as soon as I switched from low, looking at my world, looking at everything around me, looking at my problems, trying to solve, Trying to solve, like, how is this going to work? How is this going to work? As soon as I stopped asking how and I just wrote down, I'm going to show up as this version of me who's living this life. Because that's literally all I want, is to feel like that. I'm going to allow myself to feel like that, to show up like that, to be like that, because that's who my character is now, I. And that is enough. I don't need the outcome. The outcome is just like a marker that you've. That you've done it. Like, it's a reflection back to you physically. Okay, you've shifted, but there's going to be a period of time where you don't have that evidence in your reality, and you're. You're not going to know how. Like, let me tell you right now, you won't know how. Stop waiting for the physical to show you how. You won't know how. You have to decide to do it mentally anyway. You have to decide to do it vibrationally anyway. You have to decide to be living in absolute delusion, basically, anyway. And you have to decide, like, honestly, what are you doing now that's not conducive to what you want? And what should you be doing that is conducive to what you want? Because we all tell big fat lies to ourselves constantly about, you know, things that we think are acceptable or things that we don't even want to face because we're ashamed of them, or they make us feel bad, but you're feeling worse not facing them and not being honest with yourself and continuing in behaviors and thoughts that you know don't serve you. So as soon as I shifted from focusing on all my problems all the time, focusing on trying to fight reality against reality all the time, to I'm just gonna show up as this version of me, and that's enough for me. And I wrote down all the behaviors that this version of me, the one that's sitting here today that I was trying to become, all the behaviors that she had, all the things she gave up, the beliefs that she carried, the level of confidence, all the characteristics. I wrote them all down, and I said, yes, this is me now. I don't care if nothing is reflected back to me in reality. I am going to persist that this is me now. That's when everything started to shift. That's when literally everything started to shift, and it took some turbulence. This is what's gonna happen. You're gonna do this. You're gonna hit turbulence because your old reality is gonna fight back. It's gonna try to drag you back down to your old frequency because you are like, oh, I'm up here in this new frequency. And the universe is gonna be like, no, you're not. And your old self is gonna be like, no, I don't want to die. Come on, come back, come back, come back. And. And you have to say, no, this is us now. This is me now. This is me now. So you commit to your new frequency. You commit every day. You commit every time you're triggered, every time reality fights back against you, you decide you are Stronger you are this frequency. And then what's going to happen is you're able to see things like in an entirely different. It's like you're in a different dimension. Honestly, you enter a new dimension, a new reality, where all the problems you thought were there before you realize they were all in your mind, all of them. Like, they seemed so real. I know, I know they seem so real. I know they do. But when you shift mentally, most of your problems disappear. Depends where you shift to. But when you move mentally into a more positive, high vibrational state, you will have solutions that you never had before. The reason why most people don't make it through the entire transformation cycle is because of that phase of turbulence. So there'll be a phase. If you're dedicating to a new frequency, there will be a phase where your old frequency is going to be fighting back against you. So for me, this was like, I'd have a few days where I'm committed to my new frequency. I'm cruising, I feel great, it's easy breezy, beautiful. I'm like, this is amazing. Oh my God, this is so easy. Why doesn't everyone just do this? It's fine, just decide. Just decide. And your life will change. And then life will be like, no, no, like. And something will happen to trigger a part of me that can't be existing in this frequency. So the universe is going to poke you and be like, is she still very insecure? Is she still full of self doubt? Is she gonna go back on this frequency if we throw this at her, Is she gonna turn around and run back to the old frequency? We need to check that this frequency, this new one, is like solid before we change her reality, basically. So you're gonna be thrown loads of shit, basically to test you and see if you're actually for real about this new frequency. And the more you work through all of this stuff that's gonna come up and you get, you like knock down each part. So my anxiety came up that I hadn't felt in years, like not on that level in years. Came up, couldn't understand it, worked through it, recommitted to my new frequency. Then these insecurities came up that I didn't even know were there out of nowhere that I haven't felt probably since I was a teenager, was knocked on my ass for a few days, worked through it, committed to the new frequency. Then there was self doubt, huge amounts of self doubt, wondering, you know, am I capable? Blah, blah, blah. Had to work through that a few days Knocked on my ass, recommitted to the new frequency. And so it was like, it was like limit by limit by limit were knocked down. I kind of set the mark. Okay, I want to go to this frequency. I felt it as much as I could. I meditated on as much as I could. I scraped it out. I was acting with emotional conviction when I was thinking about these things, as if I was there as much and as often as I could. And as you do that, you will be cued and shown the things inside you that go against that. And this is the phase of transformation where people fall and they don't get through it because they don't realize that this is just part of it, this shedding is happening so you can be entirely solid in your new frequency without all these little parts you laying dormant. Okay, so they're just little tests, little trigger events to show you, hey, this is still in there. You need to let this go. Hey, this is still in there. You need to let this go. And guys, I felt absolutely crazy for a long time. I. And looking back on what I was writing two months ago, it's an entirely different person. I'm in a whole different reality. And the shift started happening as soon as I said, I do not care what happens in my physical reality anymore. I am dedicated to this new frequency. I'm dedicated to this version of myself. I am this. No matter what reality will throw at me, I am this, right, this new version. And no matter what reality threw at me, I always came back to this. I always said, okay, this happened, I shattered it, but this is who I am now. So you have to keep recommitting and keep coming back. And so for me, this was like a two month process. But at the end of it, I shifted realities like fully. And so I want you to know that it does work. It absolutely does work. It's just going to take time and it's going to take you deciding that you are in this new reality mentally before you can see it physically. And that is a really hard thing to do because it's not how we're trained. But that is the key to all of this. Every time you start looking at your reality and nitpicking your reality and asking yourself like, why is this like this? Da da da da da, Stressing about everything in your reality, remind yourself of the mental attitude that you actually want to embody and get back to that as quickly as you can. If you don't even know what you want yet. That's step one, like, decide who you want to show up as. Because I'll remind you again, the outcome is only just the marker of the progress. You only want the outcome because of how it's going to make you feel, right? And so decide, like when you look at what you actually want in life, decide why you want that. Like what feeling states is it going to give you and tap into those feelings, Decide to feel those feelings now and then as you go into this, you're going to have your beliefs come up that go against that. Those are going to get triggered. Your limiting beliefs that don't align with what you're now affirming are going to get triggered. Don't panic. You're not crazy. It's not all going wrong. You are being called to release and rewire those beliefs. And you can rewire beliefs. You just have to have extreme awareness. You have to know what you want to believe instead. And you have to keep affirming that with emotional intensity and emotional conviction. Write a new story about what you believe, back it up with your emotions and do that again and again and again. And over time you will evolve. And sooner or later you're going to be like, holy shit, I've shifted. If you're going down the path where your intuition is guiding you and it's something you've always wanted to do, and you're chasing something that feels like your big dream and it feels like people don't understand and you're going on blind faith, please know that it's going to take a lot of uprooting of your old self, but you are going to be pulled along this path with your intuition. So lean into your intuition. And this is my last point. When you get there, you're going to realize you were right all along, your truth. Like, if you know this is your truth and this is your path, you are going to be proven right. You make the rules for your reality. And if you feel like what you're going into is your true calling, you will find that to be true. Please know you're not crazy. Your intuition is guiding you there for a reason. If no one believes in what you believe in, I believe in it. Okay? I hope this video helped and I'll see you in the next one.
