How to Design Your Destiny

Would you like to know how to design your own destiny? Well, by the end of this video, you'll not only be able to know how to design your own destiny, but also take your life up to an entirely new level. And you'll want to make sure that you stay tuned to the end because I'll be sharing with you a bonus tip that you haven't heard anywhere else. Hi, my name is Eric Partaker and I've been recognized as one of the top entrepreneurs in the country and the CEO of the Year. I'm also the author of two best selling books including the Three Alarms, which which you can grab a free digital copy of by following the link in the description of this video right below. Most importantly for you, I've helped thousands of people realize their full potential in work and life. So please hit the subscription button below and tick the notification bell so that you never miss a future video.

The number one thing that you need to do when designing your own destiny is have a vision. If you don't have a vision, you won't know where you're headed. And without knowing where you're headed, you'll drift throughout life. By having a vision, you're having crystal clarity on what is the life that you want to create? What does it look like? What does it feel like? Who are the people that are going to be around you? Where are you living? What are you doing for a living? It's super important to know where it is that you're going or else you just get lost along the way. So number one, you. You need to have a vision for where you want your life to go in order to design your own destiny. Number two, you need to understand why. Why is that vision important to you? Without a compelling why, you won't be willing to stick with it and keep going when the times get tough. And by having a compelling why, you also want to look for something that goes beyond just you. Let me give you an example. When we were building up Skype in its very early days, before we sold it to ebay, our tagline was the whole world can talk for free. That was our why. And by having that why, we came into work each and every day inspired, knowing that we are doing the world good. We are doing something beyond just ourselves. So again, number one, have a vision. Know where it is that you're going and what that looks like. And number two, know why do you want that? What's the why behind it? The deeply motivating thing that's going to drive you towards fulfilling that destiny. Of you. For you. Number three thing for designing your own destiny is focus. And you want to think about focus from a macro point of view and a micro point of view. So what do I mean by macro point of view? Well, if you're going to design your own destiny, then you need to be focusing on what matters most. What are the outputs that matter most for the destiny for the future that you're trying to create for? For example, if you want to design a destiny where you're going to become a writer, then the outputs that really matter for you are going to be writing books or writing articles or whatever it is that you're seeking to write. So you need to make sure that you're focused on those outputs. That's at a macro level. Then at a micro level, you need to be focusing in the course of your day. So what do I mean by that? Well, it's very often we start our day and we get distracted. And if we're constantly being distracted off our path, then then we won't stay on the path that leads to us fulfilling our destiny. So what do we need to do? We need to really get good at scheduling our time, like scheduling our time showing up for those appointments with ourselves, and then single tasking, whereby we just focus on whatever it is that we had intended to do in that moment during that period of time. So going back to the example of if you're writing a book, then you will have scheduled within your day perhaps an appointment with yourself where you're researching a particular topic that relates to the book. And so schedule that in your calendar, show up for that appointment with yourself. And then while you're there doing that research appointment as an example, make sure that you're just single tasking. You're just focusing on that during that moment. Number four, to design our own destiny, we need to decide who is it that we want to be, because behavior follows identity. I'll share a story with you very quickly. So not long ago, I bought my youngest son a Captain America shield. And after that Captain America shield arrived at home, I gave it to him, and he immediately became Captain America. He started jumping around the room and wanting to, you know, run around with the shield. And he was behaving like a superhero. I didn't need to, after giving him the shield to sit down with him and do a training session on how to behave or be like Captain America. He just knew how to do it. And all of us, you included, have that ability. We did it as children where we would assume an identity and it would immediately shape our behavior. So my question to you is the following. Who is the person that will have already achieved the destiny that you're seeking? Think about who that person is and step into being that person right now. Not sometime in the future, not sometime later, but right now. And if you're liking what you're hearing so far, and if this is making sense to you, just drop a yes in the comments below. Number five Secret to designing your own destiny is to expect the unexpected. I don't. I don't know about you, but when I think about 365 days a year, the number of days that actually go perfectly to plan for me is maybe five. It's a handful at the most, and most days don't go exactly to plan. But if that's the norm, then we'd be much better off knowing that, expecting it, embracing it, realizing that that is just how life is. Rather than trying to expect or create anything else and expect things to go slightly off, not exactly to plan. You want to stay directionally accurate in the pursuit of your destiny, but not get so angry when things don't work out in the way that you had hoped or liked. And by expecting the unexpected and having that be a part of who you are, you'll be a lot stronger, a lot more capable of staying on the path to achieving your own destiny. To designing your destiny. Number six. To design your destiny, you need to upgrade your network. Let's face it, there's probably people in your life who maybe take away energy rather than give you energy that you dread being around rather than that you find very uplifting to be around. And why is that? Why don't you take more control? Why don't you look at your friendship network, for example, and make some decisions about where you want to be spending your time? Who are the friends, for example, that when you spend time with them, they lead you to grow in some way, or they, you know, get you excited about your ambitions or basically help you in the fulfillment of that destiny of yours. So take a very careful inventory of the people that you're spending time with and ask yourself, who should I be spending more time with? Who should I be spending less time with? And there are so many ways in which you can increase the quality of your relationships. There are masterminds, for example, that you can join. A mastermind is simply an assembly of a group of people who share a common purpose or idea and who all agree to meet, say, once a month to share ideas and help each other with solving problems. You could be joining a group of like minded people and seeking to get some, you know, cooperation and some collaboration and maybe some support from that group. You because once again, perhaps you are sharing some similarities in your destinies or going back to that friendship point. It could just simply be taking an inventory once again of the people you're spending your time with versus the people you could be spending more time with and making sure that you're making wise time investments with the right people. All of this needs to just relate back to the fulfillment of your destiny. So ask yourself, am I spending time with the people that will help me achieve my destiny, fulfill that destiny of mine, or who are going to help or who are likely to hold me back from achieving it, or in some way prevent me from getting there? And if you're excited about designing your own destiny, then please hit like below and give us an indication that this is helping you. Number seven in the quest to design our destiny, we we also need to be designing our learning. Think about it. You can't achieve something bigger and greater than you, most likely without learning new skills or acquiring new knowledge in some form. So sit down and ask yourself, what is it that I need to learn and from whom in order for me to fulfill this destiny of mine? And then get after it, whatever that is. If it's a course that you should be taking, books that you should be reading, maybe it's a, you know, a part time evening school that you could be attending. Figure out what it is and take control of your learning. Make sure that your learning is there to support the destiny that you're looking to fulfill, that you're looking to create. We're all born with a clean slate. So it's up to us to acquire the knowledge and the relationships and the things that we need in order to fulfill the destiny the that we want. And I'd love to hear from you in the comments down below. What is one skill that you think that you need to be prioritizing or learning or acquiring in order for you to design and fulfill your destiny? Let us know in the comments below. And last but not least, I want to give you one final secret technique that you can use to help design and achieve your own destiny, which is the power of visualization. At the start of your day, just take five minutes and all I want you to do is visualize your destiny. See it in your mind, feel it, and ask yourself, who would you be when you achieved that destiny? Who would you be in that new envisaged future? And feel what that looks like, feel the power of that within you. Visualize it in your mind's eye. And if you enjoyed today's video, hit that like button down below. Also, leave me a comment. What was your biggest takeaway from this video? And if you think there's somebody in your network who might benefit from today's message, then please share the video with them. And don't forget to subscribe as well, so that you never miss a future video. Last but not least, I'd love to give you a copy of my new Amazon best seller, the Three Alarms. And you can actually get a free digital copy of that book by following the link in the description of this video below. So hope to see you again soon.