The Rejection Myth How to Overcome Fear of Rejection

Do you want to know how to overcome the fear of rejection? Well, by the end of this video, you'll have a seven step plan to help you better overcome the fear of rejection and step into the life that you were meant to live. And please make sure you stick around for the entire video because I'll be sharing things today that you haven't heard anywhere else. Hi, my name is Eric Partaker and I've been recognized as one of the top entrepreneurs in the country and the CEO of the year. I'm also the author of two best selling books including the Three Alarms. And most importantly for you, I've helped thousands of people realize their full potential in their work and life. So please make sure you don't miss any future videos. Hit the subscribe button below and make sure to tick the notification bell as well.

All right, so the number one way to overcome your fear of rejection is to recognize that that yes lives in the land of no. Now, when I'm working and coaching entrepreneurs and individuals to higher levels of performance, often they'll have goals or something that obviously they're working towards. So for example, they might be looking to add a certain number of new clients per month and they tend to focus on the new client additions as their goal rather than just focusing on just racking up those nos. So, so what I do is a bit of a mental flip with them and I say, look, all I want you to focus on is collecting as many nos as possible, sending in as many job applications as possible, sending out as many proposals as possible, knowing that eventually the yeses will materialize, provided that they're sending out and focusing on just collecting those rejections. The other benefit this has is that by making the collection of the rejections the goal, you're embracing them. You're saying that it's okay to be rejected. But once again, of course, the secret is that the yeses do fall out of those rejections at some point. At some point, you don't just keep getting rejected, rejected, rejected. You finally do get a yes. Number two to help you overcome the fear of rejection is to not think of it as a rejection, but just think of it as you're going out there to collect data. It's almost like you're a scientist and you got your clipboard and you know, you're just collecting data. And sometimes the data is positive, sometimes it's neutral, sometimes it's negative, but it's all informative. It all helps you understand, are you doing the right things? Do you need to improve? Do you need to improve significantly, do you need just to improve slightly? And we only learn that by collecting the data, which just so happens in this instance to be called rejection, which we're trying to avoid. But if we think about it as data, that we're just collecting data, then it doesn't matter if it's rejection or acceptance. We just want to get the data in so that it helps inform both our current and future actions. Number three, rejection is evidence that you're stepping outside of your comfort zone. I'm sure you've probably heard this before, that your growth and development, it isn't within your comfort zone comfort zone, it requires you to experience some degree of stress. And when you go to the gym, you don't just walk into the gym and stare at the weights and you get stronger. I mean, that would be great, but it doesn't happen. You actually have to stress your muscle and it causes it to grow. And it's the same with our growth and development professionally and just in life in general. By going through rejection, it's evidence that we've stepped just outside of our comfort zone enough so that we fail, so that we've experienced experience stress, which ultimately leads to our growth and development. Again, you stress a muscle, it causes it to grow. You put some stress on your professional career, it's going to cause it to grow. So treat rejection as evidence that you're moving in the right direction and stepping outside of that comfort zone. And if this is all making sense so far, please drop a yes down below in the comments. The number four thing that you can do to help overcome your fear of rejection and is to actually visualize it. So think before those moments where you're most worried about rejection. Picture that it will happen, picture that you will be rejected. And then I want you to also visualize how you at your best would respond to that. Not you, like your wimpy kind of uncourage yourself. You, your strongest, boldest, most courageous version of you, how would that version of you respond to the rejection? Would they just be like, okay, next, you know, move on, or would they be completely destroyed and go into a puddle of, you know, tears and despair? So make make sure that you visualize your rejection ahead of time and then also visualize how you at your best would respond to that rejection. Number five technique to help you overcome your fear of rejection is, is to pretend you are an investigative journalist. And that journalist is going to write a little story on your life that talks about how great you are and all of the reasons that they would Use to evidence that article should be in that story. And I would seriously encourage you to do this single sheet of paper. Write out your name, why you're great and why you're worthy of all of your dreams. And, and then just write a single page. If that journalist was writing a story about you and your life, what are the points of evidence that they would use to support that headline? That you are as great as that headline suggests, that you are worthy of your dreams and ambitions. Play that exercise, be the investigative journalist and you'll come up with tons of reasons that in the end support your self worth, your self efficacy, your self belief, which is the whole point of that little exercise. Because by growing your self worth, we're actually helping you overcome the fear of rejection. Because when that rejection happens, if you are at the correct state, from a self worth point of view, it's almost like a suit of armor that you have on you. And so that rejection is just like ping and it bounces right off and it doesn't bother you and you keep moving on. Why? Because you're strong as you are, you believe in yourself. That rejection once again is nothing more than data. It's evidence that you're stepping outside of your comfort zone. It's not you is the point. You are you. And you are worth everything that you're pursuing. And if you like what you're hearing so far, then let us know and hit like down below. And from a self worth point of view, leave us a comment right now. What's one thing about you that is worthy of the success that you want? What's one thing about you that that stands above any rejection that you might face? What's one thing about you that's worth being proud about? Leave that in the comments below. The number six thing that you can do to help overcome your fear of rejection is to decode your fears. So really try to understand what is it that you're actually afraid of with regards to, you know, the potential rejection? Is it that you think it's an attack of who you are, your identity? Is it that you think if you're rejected it means that it's a sign that things are going to be harder for you? And for each of those, I want you to think about the following. So if you view a rejection as an attack on your identity, then that thing is becoming you and that's just not how it is. You are separate from that. You are who you are. As I said earlier, you are completely worthy of all the things that you're pursuing and you do not need to attach your identity to that rejection. That rejection or potential rejection is not you. It's a separate thing and you are you. And then from the hardship point of view, if you're worried about a rejection because you're worried that it's going to make life harder for you, well, you know, recognize that all good things in life require work and effort and they require going through rejection. So that's just part of the process. Remember, yes lives in the land of no. So embrace the rejection. Embrace the hardship as part of that journey ahead. And number seven, last but not least, remember that rejection happens to everyone. You are not alone in this. You are not the first person to experience rejection. You are not the first person to want to overcome your fear of rejection. But just recognize that you are not alone. This is completely normal. It happens to all of us. And take all of these seven things in totality, and I'm sure, I'm very confident that they will help you overcome your fear of rejection so that you could start stepping into, once again, the life that you were meant to live. And if you like this video once again, please hit like down below. Let us know. I would love to hear what's your number one takeaway from how to overcome your fear of rejection. Leave a comment down below. If you think anybody might benefit from hearing this message, please share it with them. Also, don't forget to subscribe so you never miss a future video. And I have a free gift for you. 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