Eva Vennari argues that codependence has made people afraid to share opinions, confusing them with confrontation. She teaches a method: start with facts, speak authentically but tactfully, strip out emotional charge. This reduces anxiety and lets people actually learn from disagreement instead of taking it personally.
said that there is so much codependence in the world. We have become normalized in its appearance, but really it's not normal, it's just common. And we, we've created this space where people are afraid to speak up their opinion. When I was in elementary school, I had a really wonderful set of teachers who all taught us these nuances. Here's how you tell the difference between an opinion, and here's how you tell the difference between, between an opinion and a fact, and here's how you deal with both of those. Like, one, neither, neither you have to take personally at all. And this is something somehow— I don't know what happened while I was busy raising kids and building a business— the whole world decided to start getting offended by opinions. So I'm like, okay, back up, back up, everybody. Let's come back to this. This basic— whenever somebody says, I think, that's an opinion.
Yeah, personal opinion, right?
That's also an opinion. And, and somehow that's taken as confrontation if it doesn't align with the other person's point of view. And letting that go or deciding it doesn't matter, right? The, the skill set seems to be missing from, from today's society, and it's creating so much anxiety and so much misconception about what it means to be in confrontation and, and then how to deal with it. And I'm wondering if we are more in our authentic self, speak with tact about our side of the opinion. and provide upfront, this is a fact that I'm basing it on, it gives you a foundation for now we can have a discussion removed from emotion and the possibility of rejection. It's not about rejection. It's about allowing for an expansion on both sides. You both will learn something. You could both change your mind ultimately. You both could come to a whole new opinion. Because now you've added in some new information.
And why would you deny yourself that growth? Right. I love that. I love that. It's like, you know, people always say, and I say it too, it's like about having curiosity and being curious. But the way that you just said it, it was like, it's kind of like another way of looking at the same thing. And I like the way that you, you said that. Yeah. It's like, well, understand where it's coming from and like the facts that they're basing their opinion on. And then, yeah, you can learn and you can also then share yours and do it in a dialogue.
