Afraid to make mistakes in English? WATCH THIS

Hey guys, it's Hadar. And this is the accent's way. Today I want to talk to you about the power of communication and why it is so important to speak up and express your opinion and thoughts. Even if you're making mistakes, even if you're not perfect. As non native speakers, we are always afraid to speak and make mistakes. We are afraid that whatever we're going to say is not going to be right. It's not going to be perfect, it's not not going to sound great, and people are going to judge us. These are the things that go through our minds every time we speak. Sometimes it's on the back burner. And the need to communicate is stronger than the need to get it always right. But sometimes the need to be perfect, the fear of making mistakes is stronger, and then it prevents you from communicating. I want to read to you a line from a letter I received from one of my followers. My problem is that I'm very shy and if I cannot do something perfect, it feels like a failure. So, Rika, this is my answer to you and to all of you who suffer from the being perfect illness. So the first thing is perfection is overrated. Sometimes people don't even notice your mistakes. Sometimes native speakers make mistakes as well because that's just how they speak. Well, you know what? That's just how we non native speakers speak. With slight grammar mistakes here and there, and that's okay. Or even bigger grammar mistakes. The most important thing is to speak is to communicate. Now I want you to visualize this. Think of this idea of perfection, of perfection as your worst enemy, as your biggest competitor, as your nemesis who is standing there around the corner just waiting, waiting for you to fail. Because every time you feed that monster, every time you decide not to speak, not to express your thoughts because it's not fully articulated, because every time you say no to an interview or a job offer or an invitation because it requires English and you are just not sure if your English is good enough or you're just afraid to speak, then your biggest enemy is winning and you are losing. This is failure. Not trying to say something and making a mistake, not saying something and getting stuck. That's not failing. That's just practicing. That's just living. Even native speakers make mistakes okay? And then it's okay because that's their native tongue. Stop being so judgmental. Let go. Lose this idea of perfection. Stop feeding the monster. Because then you are the only person who's going to pay the price. Let's say you're in A meeting. And you're sitting there and you have something to say, but you don't say it because there is a word in it that has an R or, and you're not sure how to say it, or you know how to start, but you are not sure how to finish. You keep quiet. What's going to happen? Who's losing from this situation? You are. Who's winning? Everyone else. They're shining, they're expressing their thoughts, they're advancing. If you don't speak up, if you don't speak out, your thoughts, your opinions, your heart, then you'll stay behind. Now look, I'm a non native speaker and I know what it's like. I judge myself. I all the time. I always listen to myself from the outside and I'm like, you made a mistake here. That wasn't good enough. But had I let this affect me and control me, I would have never made so many videos teaching you. I would have never had a YouTube channel. I would have never succeeded as a speech coach, as an English coach, because I don't care about that. I don't care about the mistakes I make. I mean, sometimes I get a comment and I get offended a little bit and I'm like, I get all defensive, but that lasts, I don't know, two seconds. And they're like, f that I don't care. The large majority of my students and my followers appreciate what I have to say and they respect me and that's what matters. And it's the same thing for you. People are more interested in what you have to say than in the mistakes that you're making. And if you come across a person who makes fun of you, who is judging you, who keeps pointing out at all your mistakes, then maybe that person shouldn't be around you. Maybe they're not a good friend. So think about it. Choose the people who you surround yourself with. You only want people who support you, who empower you and who encourage you. So, Rika and all of you friends, let's take action. This week, I want you to observe yourself. And every time you find a situation where you are about to speak but you hold yourself back, or when you're about to say no, I'm not going to do that because you're afraid of speaking, then I want you to say yes. Yes to communication, no to perfection. No to being afraid, no to hiding. And when that happens, I want you to share it with us. So I want you to post on Instagram what happened, what you did, how you overcame the fear and I want you to hashtag it communicationover Perfection and tag me as well at Accentsway by hadar because I want to make sure I see it and I'll feature it in my Instagram stories. Okay, that's it. I hope this was helpful. Please share it with your friends and your family who are also non native speakers and might prefer perfection over communication. So we need to change it up. Communication over Perfection. Thank you so much for watching. Don't forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel and I will see you next week in the next video. Bye.