How to get unstuck | Mindset Talk with Hadar

Hello. Hello, Hello. Welcome to day five of the Clear and Confident Pronunciation Challenge. How are you all doing? I hope you're well. Thank you for joining for another mindset talk. I'm gonna wait a minute for everyone to join and in the meantime, let me know in the comments. For those of you who joined live, how have you been? How. What is your biggest takeaway from the mindset talks? So yesterday we talked about prosody on the second part, in the second part of the day when we were going through the core content. So I was asking what was most meaningful to you in terms of the core content, but now I'm curious to hear what has impacted you the most or got you to think a little differently when it comes to specifically mindset. So. Hi everyone. Hello to everyone who joined today. We're going to talk about what to do when you're stuck, when you feel stuck. When you feel stuck in a plateau. What is a plateau? A plateau is a flat space that is high up. Okay. So for example, if you're climbing up a mountain and then you reach an area that is completely flat, that is plateau. So you're progressing. The idea is that you're progressing, but then you reach a point where you have nowhere else to climb and you're stuck. So that is usually the definition that people use when they talk about their language progress when working on learning another language or becoming more fluent or being more in that sense of fluency. But all feeling stuck is also an emotion, right? And when you think about feeling stuck, what is what comes to mind? What are the emotions that you think about? To me, feeling stuck has to do with, of course, frustration, negative emotions, feeling incompetent, feeling defeated. Like I'm doing all this work but I'm not seeing progress. This is what I feel when I feel stuck. Because. Because stuck is a result of being in motion before, but then no longer being in motion. So. Okay, so I want to address those things and I'm going to start by talking about being stuck when you are just not seeing progress, what it feels like when you're not seeing progress. And I want to address it in two different ways. One, because probably you're not doing something that is leading to progress. And two, maybe there is progress, but you're not seeing it. So I'm start. I'm going to start with one. A lot of times when we feel stuck is because we are actually not doing the things that would get us to see results. And I call it the illusion of learning. When you're watching a lot of videos when you are practicing things. But either these are things that are not critical for you to or that you don't actually use in your day to day life so you can't even see if you're able to put them into practice, or that it's. There are more fundamental things that you need to work on and those things that you're actually investing your time in learning are not helpful because there are things that get in the way that need to be addressed before working on the things that you're currently working on. So basically it's your learning strategy. If you don't have a good learning strategy in place and you don't know what to focus on, then obviously you're going to be doing the work, you're going to be learning, you're going to be doing things, but you'll feel like you're stuck. Do you know that image of a hamster on a hamster wheel, like running, running, running, running, running, but then still stuck in the same place because the hamster wheel is stuck and the hamster feels like they're running, but not really. And that is the same case when, like when we feel stuck. This is when we feel like, you know, we're doing the work, we're putting out energy, but we're not moving. So like I said, identifying what you need to work on and only working on the things that will make an impact is what's critical. Now. I think that. And by the way, I'm going to talk about this more not in the Clear and Confident Pronunciation challenge. I have a master class coming up next week that I think you should have a link to it in your email today where I, I'll be talking more about how to know what to work on and how to identify those things, just so you know. So that is one reason why you're stuck. Another reason is maybe, you know, you, you are making progress. It's just that you are unable to see it. Sometimes the progress that we make when we do the work, when we work on the right things, when we do it consistently, sometimes it's not noticeable, it's internal. And then you may say to yourself, oh, I'm not seeing progress, I don't feel it, but you are. So it's really good to look at your progress in when, when you actually look at it throughout time, like when time passes. Because if you every day try to see progress, it's really hard to see it, especially when there are small changes that happen every single day. Also, if you know the concept of the Compound effect. Small smart actions or decisions that you make every single day that don't provide with noticeable results every single day, but ultimately end up making a big difference at the end. So these are the things that we want to look into to understand that like as long as you keep doing the work and you're doing the right things, you will end up seeing results even if you can't see it in your day to day. Now, feeling stuck could also mean that you're just emotionally stuck, that you lost your motivation, that you're doing the work. Maybe you are seeing progress, but you're just tired or bored or you just don't find a good reason. Maybe you thought that you're gonna get a job or you're gonna go study abroad and all of a sudden it's not happening and you lost your motivation. But it doesn't mean that you should stop doing the work. Because English is something that is always going to be. It's always going to be something that opens doors for you. And someday the opportunity may come and you want to be ready for that opportunity. I know a lot of people only work on their English just for a specific deadline or specific result. And I want to invite you to think about it differently so that you know, once you, you feel confident and free in your English, more opportunities will come. So this is one way of like reframing this concept when you feel like, oh, I lost motivation or motivation or I don't have anything to work towards. But if you feel emotionally stuck also, one of the things that have worked for me and for my students is to do something different, to try something different, to practice things in a different way, to stop doing what you've been doing and choose to focus on different areas of English. Find new people to speak to, because we got to keep it interesting. We gotta make it interesting. It has to be entertaining if you want to study effectively. It's not enough that you focus on the right things. You have to feel something when you do that. Research shows that the brain is able to retain information a lot better when there is an emotion, especially a positive emotion involved. So when you feel nothing about the work that you do, you're not emotionally connected to it, you're not enjoying it, and to me like it. It has to be fun, right? Then it's going to be a lot harder for you to actually see the progress and enjoy it. And when we don't enjoy it, we don't want to be consistent with it, we don't want to do the work. So that is something that I really want you to take into consideration. Even though in school we might have developed this concept that learning English is boring and we have to plow through it, we have to get through it and do the work anyway. It doesn't have to be that way. So make sure you do something different and that you enjoy it and that there is a positive emotion involved in your studying process. And lastly, remember why you're doing this. Remember the reason why you're putting in this work. You're doing this work. And don't say to yourself, oh, I just want to be fluent. Let's go back to day one, like, why we do what. What we do here. It's because you want to imagine a life where everything is possible. What is possible for you once English is no longer an obstacle? I want you to answer that question, and I want you to think about it. And every time you feel emotionally stuck, go back to that question and remind yourself why you're doing this. Get excited about the possibility, get excited about the potential around this type of work, and then follow up with the rest of the things that we talked. Make it fun, make sure it's effective. Don't waste your time, and do something different. Being stuck is a natural part of any process. Right there. I've never seen any process or journey towards a goal where there weren't moments where I felt stuck. If I'm talking about my personal journey, whether it's in, you know, like, when I try to achieve something or in my business or definitely in English, right? So it's a natural part, and it's just a matter of how you manage it. It's not a sign for you to quit. It's not a sign that you're not talented. It's just a sign that A, you're on the right track because being stuck comes after progress, and B, that you need to do something different. All right, Good. All right, my friends, that's it for today. Later on, I will talk to you about obstacles that you may come across when learning pronunciation and how to. How to take it to the next level. Also, go and sign up for the masterclass. Hadar shemish.com masterclass. It's a free training that is going to happen next week on Tuesday and on Sunday, where I'll talk to you about how to put everything that you learned inside the this challenge and take it even further. Okay? Because the goal is to truly feel confident and free and clear in English. Take care, my friends. Have a good day. Bye.