A short spoken piece by T. Harv Eker advising against excessive people-pleasing. He gives two core reasons: (1) other people's likes/dislikes reveal their own beliefs and programming rather than something intrinsic about you, and (2) most people think about you far less than you assume, so their opinions shouldn't govern your actions. The tone is direct, motivational, and conversational.
Do you end up sacrificing your life in order and doing things that aren't you, that you don't want to be doing, et cetera, et cetera, in order to please other people? People pleasing. Okay, that's the problem when it's overdone. So what do we do about it? Well, very simply, this. The idea that other people like you or don't like you. Whose business is that? Whose mind is that coming from? If someone likes you, is that about you? Is that about you really? Or is it about their beliefs, their ways of thinking, their programming, what they grew up with, what they enjoy? It's about them. Let me ask you a question. I'm sitting in a chair right now, and do you like this chair? Some of you are going to go, yeah, it's a great chair. Some of you are going to go, I didn't even see the chair. Some of you gonna go, nah, I don't like the chair. Is that about the chair? The chair doesn't give a hoot, right? It's a chair and you're just you. And if somebody likes a chair, that's about them. If somebody doesn't like the chair, that's about them. If someone likes you, it's about them. If someone doesn't like you, it's about them. It has nothing to do with you, number one. Number two, most people are not thinking about you as much as you think they're thinking about you. And. And actually, they don't really give a hoot. And I'm being kind about the word hoot, okay? They don't care. And if you realize, I think Eleanor Roosevelt said that if you realize how little people actually think about you, you wouldn't worry about how much you wouldn't worry about them thinking about you because. And what they think about you because they don't. They don't actually think too much about you, right? And so, you know, it's there, but it's not there. The most important thing to realize is that other people's opinions about you seem more about them than about you, right? So just let it go. Say, that's on you. Whatever you like, whatever you don't like. Fine. It's got nothing to do with me. Thank you for sharing.
