T. Harv Eker explains that "going for" a goal differs fundamentally from "fighting" for it: the internal attitude, emotions, and attachment to outcome determine whether pursuit supports happiness. He urges putting more effort and consistency into goals but doing so with joy, passion, and purpose rather than attachment to results.
Attempting to achieve a goal or going for goal is radically different than fighting for a goal. The difference is in internally, emotionally, in attitude, right? And so when we talk about going with the flow, when we talk about not being attached, we're talking about an attitude. You could go for it from now until the next 50 years, that doesn't matter. What matters is your attitude, your frame of reference, your feeling around going for it. I don't care if you go for something for five minutes or 50 years, makes no difference. That's up to you. The most important thing is how are you going for it? Are you fighting for it? Not a good attitude for your happiness, at least, right? Bottom line is that you don't want to be fighting for anything. Do you want to try harder? Do you want to attempt more? Do you want to have more consistency? Do you want to put more energy, more focus? Great. That's not fighting. Put more focus on it. Put more time in, put more energy, but with a hello, a smile, with some passion, with some joy, with purpose. That's how you do it. And you're not attached to the outcome. Why? Because you're already happy. You're already feeling good in doing it, right? You're not doing it because I get this. When I get this, then I'm going to be happy. We know that doesn't work, does it? Because the minute you get it and you're happy for 10 minutes or 10 hours or 10 days, after that, what happens? You go back to unhappy. Why? Because that's your mo. That's how you do it. It's like fighting for peace.
