A short motivational talk by T. Harv Eker on how worrying about others' opinions limits personal freedom. He traces the origin of this fear to survival wiring in infancy, argues that most people's opinions reflect their own conditioning (not the individual), and advises letting go of others' judgments to avoid sacrificing one's life to please them.
One of the things that holds people back is being worried about what other people think about them. Other people thinking about you is kind of a form of attention and interest. Now, why is that important? Well, when you're a little baby, like an infant, what other people think about you is going to be really important. As in, if they don't like you, you're going to die. Inherently, we know that even animals know that they've got to be with their parents or mother for a while and. And that they've got to gain their favor. It's just a natural thing, survival thing. As we mature, many of us tend to get over a good portion of that, but it's still ingrained in us. And so you want that. It's a normal thing. The question is, does it run your life? Does it run your mind? Do you end up sacrificing your life in order to please other people? If someone likes you, is that about you? Or is it about their beliefs, their ways of thinking, their programming, what they grew up with, what they enjoy? If someone likes you, it's about them. If someone doesn't like you, it's about them. It has nothing to do with you. Most people are not thinking about you as much as you think they're thinking about you. They don't care. Eleanor Roosevelt said that if you realize how little people actually think about you, you wouldn't worry about them thinking about you because they don't actually think too much about you. Other people's opinions about you say more about them than about you. Just let it go. Say, that's on you. Whatever you like, whatever you don't like. Fine. Got nothing to do with me. Thank you for sharing.
