T. Harv Eker defines confidence as self-trust (referencing Latin 'confidera') and argues that confidence is gained primarily through experience. If experience is lacking, he advises starting small and making tasks easy; he illustrates this with a personal anecdote about learning to drive a boat, beginning at very low speeds and incrementally increasing complexity.
Lets talk about confidence. Confidence comes from the Latin word confidera. Does anybody know what that means? It means to trust. What's the word? To trust? Now when it comes to confidence and it comes to trusting, who do you think you have to trust? Yourself. That's what confidence is. It's really self confidence, isn't it? So it's about trusting yourself. Okay, now how do you get to trust yourself? Well, number one is the most obvious one is if you have abilities in a certain area, you can pretty well trust that you're going to be able to perform and at least do the things you were able to do before. Yes or yes. So here I am on my boat and the first time I drove this boat I really had zero confidence, right? So I had no idea what to do. I didn't even know where forward back on this boat was, etc. Etc. But after doing it one time, two times, five times, ten times, I began to have more trust that I knew what I was doing and I could do it. Makes sense, right? So number one thing is experience. And how do you get experience especially if you don't have it? You listen closely now write this down. If it's not there for you, start small, make it easy. So I didn't start on the boat going Whoa, 40 miles an hour on massive waves and big wind and woo, woo. Yeah baby. No, it wasn't even close to that. It was like this going, what are we going? About 3 miles and 3.5 miles an hour And I'm going, oh, is this sitting okay, I'm gonna try going in neutral. Okay, that, that's okay. Let me go a little forward here. Oh, oh my God. I think I'm going too fast now. Let me slow down a little bit. All right, so that's, that's day one. That's how it goes for everybody, right?
