Fleet MaullThe Entrepreneur’s Zen Master

Internal Family Systems IFS Founder Dr. Richard Schwartz. Relationships & Healing Trauma #meditation

23 Mar 2023 · 0 min

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Dr. Richard Schwartz explains how intimate relationships replay childhood patterns. When triggered by a partner, he says to look inward at your wounded parts instead of attacking them, turning relational friction into material for healing.

Person because we don't know what the hell to do with our own exiles. So we really want that person to come in and let those young parts of us know they're valued. And anyway.
Yeah, I think it's pretty clear that when we get into relationships, especially our primary relationships, we're really playing out the ghosts of our childhood and the ghosts of our family of origin dynamics. And on the one hand, that can lead to a lot of suffering, but on the other hand, it can be really the landscape, the opportunity for our personal evolution.
Totally. And that, you know, I say my, my wife is a great tormentor with a hyphen between the Torah and the mentor because by tormenting me, she's teaching me what I need to heal. So on a good day, when I get triggered by her, I don't just go after her, I look inside and I find the part that got hurt.