Marisa Peer pushes back on the idea that ordinary setbacks like rejection or missing a promotion are mental health crises. She argues we're telling ourselves stories about being fragile or permanently damaged when resilience is what we actually need.
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I think there are a lot of cultural trends today that are kind of encouraging people to see themselves as fragile and forever damaged instead of really recognizing the incredible risks you have.
I know. I have an agony column, you know, advice column. Somebody wrote to me and said, hey, I'm at work and this boy doesn't like me and he's damaging my mental health. It's like, no, darling, that's not true. A boy doesn't like you. That's part of life. You'll find another one who does. And if he doesn't like you, he's not right. That isn't damaging your mental health even a tiny bit. Except it is when you keep saying it is. You just learning to deal with rejection and not everyone's going to like you. But we now have this word, mental health. I'm not being promoted. It's damaging my mental health. Somebody was rude to me. It's damaged my mental health. And we're making this generation feel so fragile.