Fleet MaullThe Entrepreneur’s Zen Master

What if the key to better relationships wasn’t learning how to talk… but learning how to feel first?

29 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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Short excerpt from a Fleet Maull YouTube talk arguing that teaching people (even children) to name and express basic feelings—anger, sadness, fear—without assigning blame can quickly improve relationships. The speaker cites experience working with roughly 5,000 couples and emphasizes phrasing feelings without making the other person wrong.

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Wouldn't it be great if we had first graders being able to learn how to say I'm angry with you or I'm sad or I feel scared by now I don't know what to do. I had to learn those things the hard way as a grown up. And relationship arguments and things like that. And we've had about, I think we're coming up on having worked with about 5,000 couples over the past. One of the things we've discovered in all of those people is how easy it is to change a relationship if you learn a few basic things. And that's one of them, how to communicate those three basic feelings without making the other person wrong. You don't have to say I'm mad because you're of no good. Such and such. You can say, I feel angry right now with leaving the blame out of it. And it works real magic in relationships.