Not everyone can speak highly about their ex

Hello and welcome. Um, it's really lovely for you all to join me today for this mini masterclass, and, um, I'm really looking forward to sharing with you the information that I've promised. Um, for those of you that don't know me, I'm Heather Prince, um, also known as the Root Master on social media because I get to the route. And as most of you may know, I transition solo, overwhelmed, and stressed-out women into a life they love with the potential to meet a soulmate, because I leave my clients with peace of mind. And I'm so excited to be here today to chat to you. And, and if you're joining me live, please don't be shy. I'm not scary. Say hello and give StreamYard permission for your name. And if you don't, just add your name to the the comments so I know who you are. And please feel free to put your questions into the comments, so that would be really good. So let's just see, we do have somebody that is here with me. Just say hi and share your name, and that would be really lovely before I continue. Now I know a lot of you, while I'm waiting for people to join the live and be notified that there is live going on with me today. I'm just gonna shake up this little box here where I keep some mini cards in there, and each card has got a word on it. So I'm just gonna give that a little shake up and put my hand in and see what is the word for all of you that feel drawn to watch this today. And the card is Birth. So that can mean new beginnings, Right? So it doesn't necessarily mean that you know someone that's going to have a baby or that you're going to get pregnant. Don't panic. Um, it doesn't mean that. It can just mean, um, a rebirth, a new beginning. We have started a new month, haven't we? So for anyone that is drawn to watch this today, that is the message for you. Okay, so it's August. It is a new beginning, and I know that many of you are on holiday right now, so I do hope that if you're watching this and you have got Wi-Fi sitting around the pool or on the beach, that you're enjoying some time to rest, reflect, and rejuvenate. Um, so if you are watching, as I say, say hello in the chat, and if you're on holiday, do share where you are, um, and use hashtag replay if that's you if you're watching the replay. Now, the magic of August comes in with surprises, creation, sharp focus, and instant transformation. And this is time to consciously focus on your growth as the energies of this month nudge you to continue moving out of your comfort zone and into your truth. So you need to be adventurous and curious like a kid, be flexible and focus on your self-confidence and say yes in the chat if you're ready to do that in this month. So hi Heather, I don't know who you are but thank you for saying hi in the comments. Do add your name if you haven't given StreamYard permission. It is lovely when you say hi, when you send me hearts, when you send me thumbs up. It also helps the algorithm for Facebook to share this with as many people as possible for those that need to hear what I'm going to be sharing with you today. So, um, I just want to remind you about my story. I found myself single after being part of a couple for 34 years and did what most women do and went out on the dating scene before I had done the inner work on myself first, which resulted in meeting all the wrong men, including divorced men who were not ready for dating either, proving what I've said, that like attracts like. And this all changed once I had done the inner work and I'd worked on regenerating my self-confidence, my self-esteem, my self-belief, and what I call all the selfies. Um, and that, um, is when other women said to me, you know, what's your secret, Heather? How come you seem to be attracting all these really nice guys? And, and then I, I found the guy that I'm with right now. Um, and that prompted me to create the Fearlessly Moving Forwards Method, which is the stepping stones that I took to get to where I am now. Um, and my mission is to get you to a higher vibe so that you can have a man in your life like Jack in Virgin River. He's gorgeous. So if you're watching Virgin River, put Jack in the comments. And if you're not watching it, I really, really recommend it because it is such a fabulous program. So I'm Libby. Hi Libby, so nice to, um, you to join me today on this live. It's really great to have you here and all the other people that are watching I'm not scary. Please just say hi. It's really nice to know who you are and what your name is. And if you are on holiday, please do share where you are. Um, I'm not on holiday right now. I'm here in what I call my energy studio where I run my meditation groups and my psychic development group and where I do all the magic with all the clients. Hi, I'm Joy. Hi Joy, nice for you to join me here today, and, um, it's really great that I'm able to connect with you. So, um, let's have a look at what I want to share with you today. Um, if this month you need a nudge, um, you need to move out of your comfort zone, um, I've just said that in the month of August you need to be adventurous curious, flexible, and focus on your self-confidence. Um, and that brings me to dating, because without that self-confidence, you kind of, you know, put out there an energy which is not a very positive energy, which somebody can, can pick out and, and pick up on. So I've called today's training, little masterclass, Not Everyone can speak highly about their ex. And of course, when we're single after a breakup, we want to date someone who is independent. Um, and you know, if you do find yourself falling for a divorced man, how prepared are you to face the challenges of dating a divorced man? Because I know from so many ladies that I've worked with, um, they've met men who have been divorced like I did at the very beginning And there are some potential issues that can crop up. So say yes in the comments if you've experienced dating men who are divorced. Let's see if anyone is going to comment that yes, they have dated men that are divorced. And if you can hear some noise in the background, um, I've got some work going on in my garden, so I do apologize. Um, so if you've dated men who are divorced, please, uh, say yes in the chat box. And if you're watching the replay, just put replay, um, hashtag replay. Now, um, a lot of it comes down to how the divorce experience was. For someone who was only married a few years without kids, divorce can feel like a normal breakup except with lots of documents to sign. But a divorce for someone who was married a long time or has kids may mean having to integrate all of those factors into a new relationship. And regardless of the circumstances of a man's previous marriage, going through a divorce can also impact how he sees or acts in a romantic relationship. And that's why you may consider asking a man some questions. Now, I'm not suggesting that these questions come across as a kind of interview. But just in general conversation as you get to know them better, you know, such as, are you comfortable talking about your divorce? Because a man who completely avoids the topic or shows, you know, some discomfort talking about his divorce may still be emotionally invested, or at the very least has some serious tension about the topic. And that's a red flag, and it shows that he has an unhealthy connection to his previous marriage, which could be trouble for your future. Now, if you're looking for a serious committed relationship, ask the question, do you want to get married again? Now, you might assume that since he's married before, he wouldn't have any issues getting married again, but that's not always the case. Some may not want to get married again after experiencing it once, and it's important to determine where the man stands on the issue and how it aligns with where you see your future going. And another great question is, do you believe that you can spend your life with someone? Even if neither of you is interested in marriage, it's a good idea to find out whether he thinks 2 people can be together for the long haul. Ring or no ring. And think about Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. They're a great example. Now, he may not want to legally commit again, but could be completely open to the idea of a forever commitment or living together. Plenty of divorced people believe in love and commitment as much as anyone. And if your man no longer thinks that two people 2 people can be in a loving, committed relationship. That's a red flag. So another great question is, did you want the divorce? According to research, 70% of divorces are initiated by women. Did you know that? And while your man may not have initiated the divorce, it's good to find out if he wanted it. You want to suss out that he's still not pining for his old life, and you also want to find out if he's still holding a torch for his ex. And granted, it's possible he didn't want the divorce, but he's since moved on. However, his answer to the question can provide clues to you as to whether that's the case. And sorry about the noise. There's no harm in asking. How do you feel about your ex? And not everyone can speak highly about their ex, but if he's super bitter or angry about her, that could be a sign that he's still emotionally invested in the relationship. So just let me share some other bad signs for you. He puts the blame for the demise of his marriage on his ex, or says he's learned huge generalized lessons about women or marriage based on his experience. And no matter what the situation, each partner has accountability and contributes in some ways to the relationship and dissolution of the marriage. And above all, keep this in mind: divorce, it can be a healthy thing. Staying in a broken relationship is not honorable, and many people grow from them. But you do need to ask these questions to decide if you would be okay with being spouse number 2 if it came down to that. And finally, if the guy's been divorced for a few years and comfortable with his past, it's a good signal. Remembering his past fondly without any resentment or anger towards it and towards his ex indicates he's ready to date. It also shows a degree of maturity too, a good quality to look for. in a man. So my advice to you is to enjoy the experience and take it slow. And I hope that you found this helpful, and I hope that it guides you into what to ask when you are dating and the guy is divorced. So I can't see any questions in the comments, but if you're watching the replay, don't forget to put hashtag replay Send me your questions and I will do my best to answer them. And if there's any particular topic that you'd like me to share on a Tuesday in Lunch and Learn, please do ask because I'm here for you. Sending you so much love. Thank you so much for watching. Thank you to Libby. Thank you to Joy for joining me live today. Have a great day, everyone. And if you're on holiday, Enjoy the cocktail. Drink one from me. Cheers. Take care. Bye-bye.