Self-criticism erodes inner trust and sabotages decisions, creating hesitation and a need for external permission. Your inner voice gets quieter each time it's criticized. The goal isn't eliminating fear but stopping it from being your hidden decision-maker.
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You need less self-criticism. Brené Brown talks about something that most people miss. You don't build trust in yourself by being harder on yourself. You build it by becoming less critical of yourself because the inner critic doesn't actually make you stronger. It makes you hesitate. It makes you Second-guess decisions that you already made, question your emotional responses and override your own instinct— instincts and wait for permission before you act and that's exactly how self-doubt gets reinforced, not through lack of ability, through constant internal correction. And most clients that I work with don't struggle with capability. They struggle with trust in their own inner voice, and that voice gets quieter every time it's criticised. Now, inside the Self-Trust Reboot, we start to shift that internal relationship so your mind stops working against you every time you try to make a decision because self-trust doesn't grow in pressure, it grows in safety. So if you want to join my Masterclass, it's either in the bio or in the comments. And Susan Jeffers wrote something that has stayed with me for decades, feel the fear and do it anyway. But most people misunderstand that sentence. It doesn't mean the fear disappears. It means you stop letting fear make decisions for you because for many people fear doesn't show up as panic, it shows up as overthinking, delaying decisions, needing one more conversation before choosing and waiting until it feels 100% certain and it never does So fear quietly becomes the decision-maker and self-trust steps back. This is what I see constantly in relationships.
