One person can shift a relationship through sustained self-improvement, even when it creates friction at first. Phil Stutz calls this unilateral action: you change based on feedback, your partner resists the shift, but eventually they may start to appreciate it and change too.
If you are in a relationship and you are willing to take Phil Stutz's word unilateral action on how do I be the best partner? And to use all feedback from your partner, from your kids, as feedback for how you might become better. Not just for a day or a week, but months. I shared how often we'll get one person. Typically in a relationship, we'll get one person and they're doing it and the spouse, like, hates it. They're like, what? My partner is changing. They're doing weird stuff. They're moving the TV out of the bedroom and they're waking up early and creates friction. You change one component relationship. The relationship is changing and so it creates friction. There's a fear of what's happening on my partner. And then over time, I kind of like this version of them. They are nicer to me. They are more grateful. They're helping out around the house. They're less reactive. What is this? Maybe I should look into this too.
