Brian Johnson argues parents should discover what their kids actually want, not push their own dreams. Then teach them the basics: eating, moving, sleeping, breathing, focusing. Support their goals, not yours.
My bags are packed, buddy. I cannot wait to be there and to celebrate you when you become a grandmaster. He wants to do it by the time he's 18. We want to believe in our kids. We want to help them get clarity. Ryan says, help them dream, help them see what they're capable of, believe in them. But we got to help them earn competence. We got to teach them how to achieve the things we want to achieve, but we got to know what they want. Then all this wisdom becomes them directing their behavior to achieve it. So we teach our kids how to eat, how to move, how to sleep, how to breathe, how to focus their attention. My wife's as into this stuff as I am. But we don't teach them in an abstract way. But now I can teach him, well, if you want those things and you want to pay attention to how you eat, how you move, how you sleep, how you breathe, how you focus your mind and train, and of course also have a shot at becoming a grandmaster. So again, the point here is know your kids' goals. Help them get clarity on that. Don't be the dad who's telling your kid what to do all the time, like it's your idea and you want it for you. No, no, you want to help them get what they want in life.
