Brian Johnson argues your childhood doesn't determine how you parent. He says the goal isn't perfection but being predictably awesome: consistently giving your kids safety, being seen, being soothed, and security. Setbacks are chances to step back up.
However you were raised is not the destiny of how you will parent. We have all had our own challenges and our own upbringings, and we have the opportunity to create more coherence in our lives now. Who have a significant role in our lives can do that. And again, we need to do the work to integrate the past, the present, the future such that we can show up, help our kids feel safe, feel seen, feel soothed, feel secure so they can go out into life. It isn't about being perfect. It is about being predictably awesome. Once we stop worrying about being perfect, we can strive to be good human Beings, we're not alone. Next time you fall short of your standards, remember that. Do your best to step back up. Self, safe, seen, soothed, secure. Remember how you show up as you create coherence in your own life. Make those deposits and create the new destiny for yourself and for your kids. Show up as your best.
