Hesed Ojieh argues that how your spouse addresses you matters. Using casual or disrespectful names erodes dignity, while polite requests like "sweetheart, please bring me the cup" and genuine gratitude restore it.
I was praying for a sister who is no longer in love with the husband. I don't know if he added some pot belly, lost his muscles. Am I talking to you? Don't know how to talk to you anymore. He has no— he calls your name anyhow. But, but, but before he He calls it with dignity. Mariah, where are you? Now he calls it with tiredness, disrespect. How many of you have people who call your name anyhow? I do. Prophet, don't ever call me that again. You say, why? Because the name is a gateway. Call it with dignity. Tell your husband to call you with dignity. Tell him to be slow. Don't just call me anyhow. Can you please help me bring the cup there? Say no. Say, sweetheart, please bring me the cup. And when he brings the cup, pause and look into his eyes and say thank you. Amen. Am I talking to you?
