Stop Fighting: People Who Thrive On Conflict #shorts

Name: Stop Fighting: People Who Thrive On Conflict #shorts
Uploaded: 2026-03-12T04:09:28+00:00
Duration: 1 min 30 s
Channel: Hesed Ojieh
Description: In this short sermon, Hesed Ojieh shares a personal anecdote about a woman from his church who repeatedly offloaded her personal struggles onto him…

12 Mar 2026 · 2 min

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In this short sermon, Hesed Ojieh shares a personal anecdote about a woman from his church who repeatedly offloaded her personal struggles onto him, using conflict as a form of therapy. He observes that some individuals find fighting to be a way to feel whole and healed, and he warns listeners not to become the target of such battles. Ojieh advises setting firm boundaries and refusing to engage in fights that serve as a therapeutic outlet for others, emphasizing that giving them a fight only fuels their need for conflict.

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There used to be a sister, and she used to be part of my church. But I began to notice that she wasn't just calling me to pray or to speak over her life. She was pouring her whole battle. She was pouring the whole battle, the mess in her life, she was dumping it on me. She will say things like, well, I need to speak to you, Prophet, I need to speak to you. In my own way, I would just call her up to check on her, what's going on. Then all of a sudden, I realized what she was doing. There's some people that fighting with you is therapeutic to them. I'm trying to take out this label. Fighting with you heals them. Don't give them that fight. Don't give them that fight. Fighting with you makes them happy. Fighting with you makes them whole. They have to fight with somebody. That's where you come in.